Recently had my dating scan. At it the Synographer was very opinionated about me wanting to find out the sex at the 20 week scan. He told me I would not be doing myself or the baby any good in finding out and I'm only going to be a selfish mother by wanting to find out. His reasons for having this opinion were that back in university (probably about 35 years ago judging his age) his research piece was about which mothers bonded better with their new borns; those who found out the sex prior or after birth? He told me that I wouldn't bond with my baby anywhere near as well as someone who waited.
Now I have a few concerns here.
- isn't this completely unprofessional? He turned a magical moment of the dating scan into a scary lecture.
- other research I have been reading states the opposite of his claims, does anyone else agree with this in their experience?
- Now I'm worried the Synographer at my 20 week scan might just lie about not being able to tell the sex.
Things get a little further complicated when I point out the Synographer's assistant is my mother in law. I love her to pieces, she is a wonderful woman but I'm wondering if this is where she gets the viewpoint of how bad I am for wanting to know the gender. Her and the Synographer are really good friends too 😕
Any advice or reassurance please?
(FYI just want to know the sex as it feels odd calling the baby it or other non personifying terms, not bothered about gender either way really.)