Scared emetophobe pregnant with number 2

[Ld1978]

I am pregnant with number 2 and only 4 weeks and scared :( I felt the same first time around and have been desperate for number 2 and now it's happened i feel like I'm on a roller coaster and can't get off and wondering what I have done.

I was never sick with number 1 but heard so many people say pregnancy 2 is worse and waiting for 6 weeks to hit :(

[worrierandwine]

That's why it scares me Ld - the lack of control of it. Being sick in public terrifies me. WellErr This anti nausea med sounds great but how does it work if it's a stomach bug? I was always lead to believe it just has to run its course and there's nothing you can do so would it help with that? Stomach bugs are my major fear, if I know someone is ill from drinking too much or what they've eaten or due to meds etc it doesn't scare me so much because I know the reason for it, it's not catchable and is just not as scary.

[Ld1978]

Oh bless you - if I'd had a pregnancy like that I don't think I'd have the courage to do it again. Mine was good and I am still scared stiff. You sound like you coped so well and you should be proud.

I wasn't even sure I'd do it once let alone twice but I really want my little girl to grow up with a sibling. It's still feeling surreal to do it again :( I should be over the moon.

If you decide to stop at one that's completely understandable. If you do it again you coped last time and you would do it again. I know it's scary though

[RoastieToastieReastie]

Interesting thread, I have one DD and wouod love to have more but I'm too scared of being pg again. I had a terrible pg where I was in the cusp of being sick non stop for the first 20 weeks and then feeling sick still for the remainder. I literally was bed bound and barely left the house for the entire oregnancy. It was the hardest thing I have ever done but now I have DD I wouldn't have it another way. I was on anti sickness pills from 5 weeks and think anyone including non emet would have struggled with what I went through.

I'm now at the point of am I going to have another or not, and I do so want one but I don't think I can cope and do it given my history of issues with hormones and pg. I really salute those of you that are doing it and wonder if y can do it maybe I can, but still I just don't think I'll ever manage it. At least you ladies won't live your life with what ifs and regrets unlike me

[SaraC8]

Sorry that scared you, I didn't mean it to! I would have got medication but because I felt fine during the day I kept not going, and as soon as I went to bed I was ok. And not ill at all in the morning, I was just happy I was at home where I felt comfortable. I feel totally fine now! It wouldn't stop me doing it again :) you'll be fine xxx

[Ld1978]

Oh god Sara -see that's what worries me as I know I would not cope :(

[pinkieandperkie]

Oh ok thanks for that. My daughter was prescribed this when she was tiny for allergies, I remember it knocked her out like a light.

[WellErrr]

It's called Phenergan. It knocks you out though so don't take it and drive. And don't take it at all in pregnancy unless the doctor prescribes it!

[SaraC8]

I'm mildly emetophobic (I say mildly but don't really have anything to measure it against, haha), I am nearly 24 weeks pregnant and was sick every evening without fail for about 10 weeks (8 weeks ish onwards). I was totally fine during the day but at night I felt awful, I think I would have been sick more often if I wasn't so accustomed to trying to control it/not be sick. I know that sounds unhelpful but I'm trying to say that it probably has helped me slightly, I know it's not the end of the world now if I'm sick and I'm a pro at it now so can get it over and done with I'm sure if it started up again it would be another story, and if I was worse in a subsequent pregnancy I would get something from the doctors to help. Take anything you need, if and when you need it :)

[Ld1978]

I think avonmine is prescribed (I had it last time) and is a travel sickness med

[pinkieandperkie]

Wellerrr. would you mind telling me the name of the anti sickness medication that you can purchase over the counter, I'm feeling sick today (not pregnant) and would like to try something that may help. Thanks so much.

[Ld1978]

It's an awful phobia as you have no control over it (like with something like snakes which you can avoid) the first thing I think when I wake up is that I don't want to do this again :( it's awful as we tried so long and it's not related to not wanting baby but not wanting to do pregnancy and birth again :(

[WellErrr]

Congratulations OP!

I am also emetophobic. Currently pregnant with my third. I had no sickness whatsoever with number one, then felt very sick at times with number two, which was awful. Never actually was sick though.
With number three I felt really sick from early on. I had a near meltdown with sheer terror and went to the GP at 7 weeks. He gave me some anti-sickness medication (which you can also buy over the counter) which saved my sanity. They took the edge off the nausea and I wasn't actually sick.

With modern medicine, there's no need to suffer unnecessarily. It is awful to worry though - you really do have my sympathies

[worrierandwine]

Ld I am just as guilty. I get anxious, tell myself not to google then do it anyway. Phobias are horrible and irrational and I wish all the time I didn't put myself through the stress of it all.

[Ld1978]

It's so hard to not Google but just makes the anxiety worse. I keep thinking why am I doing this again but I know the end result is so worth it! I wish there was a stork

[worrierandwine]

Stay off google and just remember that even if you feel sick doesn't necessarily mean you will be sick. I found not eating enough made me feel nauseous so I know it's hard but eat something as soon as you wake up. Big hugs as I know it's terrifying

[Ld1978]

Thanks for the positive posts ladies. I know I am going to worry til 6 weeks hits as that's when most people feel ill. I feel like I'm just worrying waiting for what may happen!! Google and horror stories don't help either :( I don't know how I did this first time round - I feel just as scared again

[SecretlycrushingonTomHanks]

Just a quick post here for reassurance. Was never sick in my pregnancy with DD1 and again with DD2 I was never sick. In fact this time round my pregnancy was actually easier. to you OP I hope that helps you feel a bit less worried.

[worrierandwine]

Also ladies, just a thought and I'm sure you may already have done this but is it possible there's something you're allergic/ intolerant to that's exacerbating your IBS? I was advised by a friend to start cutting things out of my diet and luckily the first thing I tried (milk) was the culprit. I still have IBS but I'm not on the toilet feeling sick and bloated on a daily basis anymore, my IBS only flares up when I'm anxious now. I may get an allergy test done also just out of interest to see if there's anything else I should be avoiding, I just never seem to get around to it!

[worrierandwine]

Yes Ld I live in fear of them daily. When I was younger I thought I was the only person with the fear of it so never spoke about it to anyone. Having others who struggle with the same thing does make you feel less isolated although I wouldn't wish emetophobia on my worst enemy!

[Ld1978]

Aww bless you!! I find cool air helps too! I'm in a mad panic til 6/7 weeks as that's when everyone says it hits :( I can't remember how I got through all this before :(

It's nice to have people who can relate

[iwillbemrsminty]

Thanks Ld. Am 5+4 today. Suffering with horrible ibs flare up at moment which is bad enough and the spasmy cramps make me feel so sick. So I sit on the loo doing my weird breathing with the window wide open cold air blowing in and a cold flannel on me head until it passes. It's awful. It is nice to know there's others who feel the same isn't it hun. Thank you x

[Ld1978]

Oh god I am dreading bugs!! I am so scared when norovoris does the rounds and surely it's going to be even worse having 2 kids!!

[worrierandwine]

Hi ladies. I've been scared of being sick for as long as I can remember but due to the constant exposure to feeling sick with IBS and working in a hospital in a job where I am exposed to it I thought I had it under control. However, my DD1's first stomach bug at 2 years old has made it rear its ugly head again. I'm not particularly scared of it myself anymore but when I hear the words "sickness bug" or even worse "norovirus" I am a wreck, I don't even like saying or typing the words. I fear my children catching it now rather than myself. The spread of the virus terrifies me.
I hope you make it through your pregnancies unscathed but I have to say I've found it much worse watching my daughter go through it than going through it myself and also the fear of it spreading through the house.

[OneTiredMummmyyy]

If it is any consolation I was only sick once with DD1 (felt sick constantly for first 3 months though) and with DD1 wasn't sick at all

If you weren't sick with your first, fingers crossed you'll be alright with your second.

[Ld1978]

Aww thanks sue :)