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Help needed in social events involving alcohol without revealing pregnancy

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Bootsalex · 23/04/2016 14:04

Hi,
I've just found out I'm 3-4 weeks pregnant which is excellent but I'm concerned now as I've got so many social events between now and the 12 weeks scan! Most of the things will involve booze, and without making me sound like a total wino, my friends will suspect if I don't have a proper reason for not drinking!
I'm happy to tell my closest friends the truth but I'm with many others who I don't feel comfortable telling yet, until I know I'm a bit further on as I'm nervous in early stages.
Does anyone have any tried and tested "excuses" that I can borrow?! Smile

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notagiraffe · 24/04/2016 19:43

And congratulations btw! Grin

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Bootsalex · 24/04/2016 19:46

Ooooo cystitis! I like that one!! haha thanks!

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kiwiblue · 24/04/2016 20:08

I agree with getting non alcoholic drinks and no one noticing. People are too wrapped up in what they're doing to be suspicious of what looks like an alcoholic drink. Something I've been doing a lot is to order a mocktail, as everyone just assumes it's a cocktail. Last night I had a Virgin mojito and everyone thought it was the real thing.

Getting your DH or a friend to double drink works well as someone else said. I was at a dinner last night where they brought prosecco to the table for everyone. I took one and then DH proceeded to drink both mine and his and i would periodically switch the glasses so it looked like i was drinking it. No one suspected a thing! I think if you make excuses it looks more suspicious.

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underrugsswept · 24/04/2016 20:10

Antibiotics
Hungover
Tummy bug
Waiting to find out if you're pregnant (can only really use that with certain people and once though!)

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underrugsswept · 24/04/2016 20:12

Cystitis is a great one. I'm stealing that!

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FishWithABicycle · 24/04/2016 20:39

Dilute apple juice just right and it looks like white wine. Dilute it with fizzy water and it looks like champagne. Get a litre waterbottle and make a batch at home. Coat with large pockets or big shoulder bag containing this and an empty spare bottle. If someone insists on getting you a drink you can empty it into the spare bottle and refill with apple juice.

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MGC1986 · 24/04/2016 20:48

If you're happy to tell a close friend, which you've said you are, get her on board to drink your alcohol. Get her to order a soft drink when you get alcohol and switch.

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sharon2016 · 25/04/2016 12:30

I'm 10 weeks pregnant and have had the same problem. Me and my friends always meet for drinks after work, at nice wine bars and things. The first day I ordered an orange juice I lied and said I was driving. I could tell they guessed straight away. And now so many weeks down the line they have totally guessed as one straight out asked me if I was pregnant.

Do your best to cover it up, but I wouldn't worry too much if they guess. Its your business to tell them when you are ready to, and until then they can keep guessing! So don't feel any pressure to tell up huge lies as to why you are ordering an orange juice!

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libstar · 25/04/2016 17:27

Pre summer detox, I was so sick that avoiding people wasn't an issue, also alcohol free lager and buying lime and soda and telling people there's vodka in it.

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Bootsalex · 26/04/2016 20:49

Thank you so much for all your help/advice/suggestions! Fingers crossed it will go ok! :)

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