Is anyone else finding pregnancy really hard?

[Heavenscent86]

It has just seemed to be one thing after another and I'm really looking forward to reaching the end of it now. I don't think it was so difficult first time round. Feeling a bit low tonight

[Flowersonthewall]

Gosh can I join in too? I'm 18 weeks and feel like I've been subjected to everything you possibly can get in pregnancy spent the first 12 weeks throwing up with terrible nausea. The nausea seems to have passed but am still sick if I eat something that doesn't agree with me. Have got spd and really struggling with my right hip. Have a heat rash on my arms and other sweaty places! Which is horrible and now suffering from a cold and sore throat which is making me breathless and throw up! Oh and I'm shattered all the time! This is my 3rd pregnancy and have a 5 and 4 year old so always jobs too do. Thankfully they are fabulous at playing together and my husband is great when he's around but he's busy getting a new business venture off the ground.
I really hate complaining as I know I'm not the worse off and I'm so excited to be having another baby. Just feel guilty for complaining but this is grinding me down! I also feel like I've been a complete recluse for the last 4 months and barely seen friends as I just want to hibernate and get to bed for 9! Roll on July!

[TwllBach]

I am hating this. I was back in hospital all day yesterday and been sick so hard this morning I might as well be inside out. I've never been so consistently miserable and lonely. My house is a pig sty and my dog is desperate for a walk but all I can do is lie in bed.

[Miffy1979]

Yep.. hating it here too. I'm 27 weeks and have a 10 month old (unplanned!), I'm bloody exhausted and just want some time to relax.. except everything hurts and SPD is getting worse, along with acid indigestion and bloody insomnia . I just have no energy! I'd love to get signed off work..

[applecatchers36]

YY am 30 weeks and this pregnancy is definitely harder than first, mainly running after an active toddler all day while pregnant & all the various stages of pregnancy nausea, tiredness and now have some nasty bug but can't really take anything for it.
Am coughing a lot and that's not helping with sleep and am incontinent ( have recently discovered) when I have particularly bad coughing fits, which has happened at work ..nice :(

[PippaB007]

I'm only 14 weeks and I feel very sorry for myself. Nauseous, and hungry (at least I've lost 5kg so far), and tired. My two kids (6 and 3) are desperate for attention, and the dogs are desperate to be walked. And I have a new boss who is still trying to assert herself, and is an all round nightmare.

[Reebok]

Know what you mean about ondansetron being your lifeline...same for me. I have tried to cut back on them but end up relapsing so think will be on them until baby comes. While the sickness isn't as awful as it was, it's still around at 28 weeks. Last time it started to improve at 16 weeks and was gone by 20 so it's depressing me that it's still here. I was aiming to finish by 35 weeks but I'm really struggling to even walk lately and the commute is killing me so night have to end up stopping at 32 weeks. Plus having problems with my boss.

[LouLou030783]

I'm with u lol I'm just 20 weeks the sickness just went away at bout 16 and returned at 19 I'm so sick of being sick.. I don't remember it being this hard the last twice however they were 10 and 13 years ago. I'm acting in work like I'm cool then when I get home I die lol

[TwllBach]

28 weeks with my first although have had mcs along the way. I desperately wanted to enjoy pregnancy but... DP will have been away for a total of 4 months - 2 months before Christmas and 2 months after with a month home in between. We don't live together and until last week I was looking at being essentially homeless after the baby was born, although he's pulled his finger and decided he loves us and wants us all to be together so now we will be living together which is good.

I have SPD and sometimes I get up and can't move my feet off the floor sometimes. I haven't had more than a fortnight without being vomit free.

Now I'm at risk of preeclampsia... Have the black spots and protein in my urine.

I'm under so much pressure at work - am a teacher with only three years experience yet have been promoted to SLT as 50% of our team has signed off sick with stress, leaving me and the other teacher - both with less than 5 years experience - to pick up the pieces. I'm part time (mornings only) but am expected to stay till 5 each day now to cope with the extra responsibilities and it's breaking me.

I'm exhausted, in pain, lonely, bored and stressed. I love my baby and love feeling him kick and move and can't wait to meet him but am disappointed that I haven't enjoyed my pregnancy after wanting it for so long.

[kate1516]

I am so glad I found this thread tonight. Could have been me writing it. Definitely feeling sorry for myself and struggling this time round. Am 31 weeks and bloody nackered. Way worse than last time to the point I thought I had to be anaemic but wasn't. Currently have a sick dh and ds both with fevers so looking after them. Think it will be a night of sleeping on the floor in my d's room which quite frankly hurts at this stage in pregnancy. I had booked myself a long weekend off work as been feeling so low so was planning on using my extra two days of the weekend for me stuff like catching up on sleep and trying to rest and reading and films and not looking after two sick people. Sounds very selfish written down and obviously I am looking after them but I also really really needed some looking after this weekend.

[scaredmum2be]

Yep. 34 weeks today with my first. Her constant nausea/vomiting up to 28 weeks. Several episodes of having to vomit on the streets, insomnia, restless legs, heartburn which has caused me to vomit up blood, back ache, pain in bum and thighs, can't bend over, waking between 4-10 times a night to wee. And yes sometimes I can do ten wees in 8 hours, can't bend down without pain.
Just want it over

[Heavenscent86]

Hi reebok. I'm sorry to hear your hyperemesis still hasn't gone. Is it much better at all? Mine is still around but I'm only usually sick if I try and come off the ondansetron. They are my lifeline at the moment. I've got 3 weeks left at work which takes me up to 35 weeks so hoping I can stick it out. When are you planning to finish?
Vodka how are you getting on?
Womb it sounds like you are really suffering. I do hope you don't go overdue and baby is kind enough to come early.

[WombOfOnesOwn]

Ugh I am SO with you. 38 weeks tomorrow and daily vomiting has made a thrilling return to my life, I'm farting and belching near-constantly, SPD makes walking even across my home or rolling over in bed a terrible chore, my knees have something horribly wrong (they burn with any pressure applied) and my hands both have "trigger finger" in the ring fingers.

Have I mentioned that my mother went to 43 weeks in her pregnancies and my grandmother went to 44? I want to cry!

[vodkaredbull]

Well one day of induction down and so far no progress. Looks like I get to feel uncomfortable a little longer!

[Reebok]

Hi heaven!! Totally with you...I hate pregnancy. The hyperemesis still hasn't gone. In constant pain, baby feels like she's going to fall out...struggling with dd and working. In tears all the time from the pain, sickness and exhaustion. Think Im going to have to stop working very early this time as I'm not coping at all.

[Heavenscent86]

Ooh good news on the section date ifitzgerald. That's quite close now. K080 things might improve for a little while. I felt a bit better and a bit more energetic between roughly weeks 20-24. It wasn't for long and it wasn't a dramatic improvement but I was grateful to get some let up. If you're sicknes goes you might find you can enjoy it more. Sorry if this is not very encouraging.

[lfitzgerald100]

I can happily say I Havnt got long left now! Lol had my scan and saw my.consultant and they've booked me in for a section on the 23rd Feb!

[KO80]

I hate being pregnant too! I'm 19 weeks tomorrow, i've had nausea all the time, sickness, lost of appetite (all still coming and going over the past couple of weeks) heartburn and now it hurts when I walk. I'm not happy at all. This is my first pregnancy. I rest when I can which is the benefit when it's your first and I know it's not really going to get any better.

[Heavenscent86]

That's how I feel vodka. You feel like you should be over the moon because you are getting your much wanted baby but after having setbacks and disappointments it's so hard to look forward to it. It doesn't sound awful. It's totally understandable. Good luck with your induction tomorrow. I hope it's a positive experience for you. Do try and let us know if you can.

[Thenightswatch]

You don't sound awful vodka, I always feel under so much pressure to feel happy and excited but it's so tiring and draining some days. I too have suffered a loss and do feel guilty when I tell DH in fed up and had enough, but doesn't mean I don't love and want this baby very much

Good luck with your induction, I had one with my first, but won't go in to detail, hope yours goes well

[vodkaredbull]

I've just read that back and it makes me sound awful. I am excited, she's very much wanted and as someone who has struggled with infertility and miscarriage I shouldn't feel this way! I think some of it is probably not wanting to accept a positive outcome in case something goes wrong.

[vodkaredbull]

I'm excited because she's my first but at the same time I'm not. Had lots of losses so I feel bad about being so unhappy. Just been a dreadful pregnancy from the start! Really hoping for a positive induction tomorrow but not getting my hopes up.

[Thenightswatch]

I am excited, mostly because I feel bad for being grumpy and tired with my 2 DC, so when baby does get here I'm excited to meet her and also get back to being my normal hormonal free self.

Also had horrendous heartburn last night that kept me up, definitely not going to miss that.

Wanted to kick wake up DH who was snoring blissfully beside me just so he could suffer with me.

Thinking about taking out shares in rennies!

[LastOneDancing]

34 weeks today and I just feel ill. Sore groin, sore ribs, heartburn and braxtons on and off for nearly a week. I also feel quite emotionally unstable - angry, then overwhelmed, then happy again...!

I honestly think I have quite easy pregnancies but I feel poo so I have lots of sympathy for anyone suffering with SPD or other complications.

And I don't feel I can complain to anyone (except here!) as there's always a 'you should be grateful' commentary in the back of my mind and I feel so guilty. I AM grateful, Im just so fecking uncomfortable I could cry.

[lfitzgerald100]

I agree, I'm just ready to get him out now! Lol

[Champagneformyrealfriends]

I can't seem to feel any excitement at all-it just feels like I'm waiting for a (metaphorical!) bomb to go off!