No idea how far along I am - midwife of no help

[nanceweir]

Hi everyone, I'm new here. I'm 22 and this is my first pregnancy. Apologies if this gets long.
I had the implant in for 2 years and bled every single day for these 2 years. It was removed on 31st July 2014. I didn't have unprotected sex until I started taking the pill on 25th August. I didnt take a period between 31st July and 25th August. Because I didn't want a period on my wedding day and was fed up of constantly spotting, I ran four packs together until 14th November. The ONLY day I missed a pill was my wedding day - 3rd October.

I found out I was pregnant on 21st November - I tested because I hadn't taken a period in my week break from the pill.
When I saw my midwife on Friday I told her all of this and she convinced herself I am 8 weeks pregnant - I have no idea why she would say this when all she had to go by is what I told her .

I think it's more likely I conceived on or around my wedding day (which was 10w 3d ago) which would put me at 12w 3d. She gave me a date for a booking appointment which isn't until 13th January at which point I could be 16w pregnant!
I'm so hormonal and feeling really upset by this all. Why have I not been offered a scan to date my pregnancy? How can I break the news to my friends and family without knowing everything is OK first, or even knowing how far along I am?

I managed to get a booking appointment rearranged for tomorrow but I'm so scared of going and being fobbed off again and made to wait 4 weeks for a scan.

Can anyone suggest what I tell the midwife tomorrow? AIBU thinking that I should get a scan if there's no other way to date my pregnancy?

[CurlyLocks87]

how did you get on OP?

[OhMjh]

I felt flutters at 12 weeks, so it can happen early on but I would pay for a scan or lie to get given an NHS one quicker, although around this time of year it's a little tight.

[uurrghhhhhh]

How did you get on op?

[fattycow]

A private scan is a good idea!

[naty1]

If the bump is around pubic line still its probably unlikely you are over 12w.
If you arent concerned about the nt scan then then scan date given would be fine.
It is not ok to have a late scan date if you want nt(downs etc) testing.
But reasonably as the are only less than 2 weeks to do that and over xmas some people will always have their dates out by that much.

[rubyboo2]

Ask the Midwife to have a feel of your tummy then you will have a better idea