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Delay booking with NHS until 3rd trimester

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AlexandraN · 08/04/2014 21:38

Hi all,

I am pregnant with #2 at the moment, should be about 6 weeks (my son is 4 m.o., this is a surprise pregnancy).

I work full time, back to the office when my son was 3 weeks. The job (financial, in the City) is challenging enough now even without the need to ask for time off for the antenatal visits and annoy the boss even more. Also, I must admit I saw absolutely no value added by the midwife appointments during my 1st pregnancy.

It may sound like heresy, but with the new pregnancy I am very tempted to delay booking with the midwife until halfway through my 3rd trimester. Educated enough not to drink, smoke or use street drugs during my pregnancy, not in the risk group for sickle cell disease etc., able to check my blood pressure with the home monitor, have a doppler at home so can check the baby's heartbeat whenever I like. Of course will do all the scans & bloodwork privately (at convenient time, without three-hour queues). Presumably, it will also help the NHS overstretched budget.

Am I missing something obvious with my decision?

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Bornin1984 · 12/04/2014 09:58

Op that's disgusting behaviour from your employers! I hope
You see a solicitor about the unfair treatment you receive

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ChasedByBees · 12/04/2014 10:08

So sorry OP, do you have any legal options? Unfair dismissal?

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Jcb77 · 12/04/2014 10:27

Constructive dismissal? Probably the last thing you want to think about right now, but can you write any of it down whilst it's still fresh in your mind and ideally get a witness or two to do the same, keep emails etc.
Bigoted, racist, misogynistic people as your boss seems to be should have no place in power. And should be dealt with appropriately. Heaven forbid the next (white, British, male?) he employs turns out to be gay - I can't imagine terribly nice comments would be made then either. What I mean is that his attitude is very unlikely to be specifically about you and is much more likely to be about him. So for your sake and those that have the pleasure of working with him in the future - it needs 'addressing'.