This is my first post and its a bit of a rant so please forgive me! I was due yesterday and my parents have come over from OZ to be a part of this happy time. Since I was three months I have been telling them that I am concerned about them coming over, asking them for patience and understanding after my husband convinced me it was a bit selfish not letting them be here for the birth of their first grandchild and because i'm an only child. I reluctantly gave in and and believed i was doing the right thing, especially after my dad had a heart attack when I was just gone 4 months. But i have been dreading them coming- now you could think that I will say that they are overbearing etc but they aren't really, just really want to help and be a part of this experience. The only problem is i am a bit of a nightmare for not accepting help and really hating it when people try and tell me what to do (which they do in a parenty type way not really bossy). So have been behaving badly, and I know it- but not wanting to socialise with them and avoiding them which isn't helping.
Anyway I decided I couldn't bite my tongue any longer and asked them not to take the piss out of me in front of other people. My dad got really upset (a side effect of the heart attack) and brought that up and said they can't do anything right. I agreed! But I did say I have been warning you about this for the last 6 months and we came to peace again. Asked my mum if she had anything to say and she comes out with "I don't think i'll ever get over this". I know I've been horrible but I also feel like, I didn't ask you for this, you wanted to come here, I warned you about it and you still came. I feel like they just want me to be the perfect daughter and we have a lovely friendly relationship which in reality its not bad but I would really just prefer my own space at this time. So at the moment no one is getting what they want and my DH is peace talker and thinks I need to get over it. I totally agree but really am struggling with it.
Any advice please would be appreciated!
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aussiemumtobeuk · 09/03/2014 11:57
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