Baby question new mum to be and a we bit clueless

[SweetPea86]

Hi I'm not due till April with my first child.

I'm pretty clueless and one of the things I'm unsure of is sleeping arrangement with baby

Once I get home does the baby sleep in a Moses basket in our room and if so how long for?

And then how old is baby when they go in to nursery,

I know a few friends who let baby sleep in bed for 3 years which to me is a no no I want a good routine going.

My best friend had her little girl in her own room by 5 weeks and she slept right through for 12hr (a little angel lol )

Sorry for the daft question.

[badfurday]

Ah, Ok, I guess a lot of it is gut feel.
Katatonic - Me too, everyone else seems to just know what to do!

[Brodicea]

I was thinking of swaddling her/him when newborn and then moving onto a grobag when a little older.

[Geneticsbunny]

highlove depends on the baby. Some will sleep through pretty much anything. It is very noisy in the womb so hey should be used to noise when they arrive.

[SolomanDaisy]

For the first six months someone was with DS 24 hours a day. No-one went crazy! It was nice. But I was at the paranoid end of the parenting spectrum, as we had not found it easy having DS. Many, many people don't do it this way! I honestly think you don't know until you have the baby which way will be best for you. DS wasn't much of a crier and always had one good chunk of sleep a night, which meant I wasn't exhausted and in need of space, which I might have been if he'd had colic and cried six hours a night.

[Hettyjones]

Soloman, do you mean that one of you stayed awake with your DS all night???

I really don't think you need to be watching them 24hours a day. It is fine to have a shower, make a cup of tea etc. really it is. Because doing that is no different to being asleep at night whilst they are, is it? I have never met anyone who watched their baby 24hours a day without sleep/tea/loo breaks. You do need to adapt but that's ridiculous.

Oh and honestly, the vast majority of women I know (including myself) had no clue whatsoever and most were just like me and winged it until we began to get the hang of things.

[SolomanDaisy]

God no, I'm a bit overprotective, not insane! I meant there was always someone in the room with him when he was asleep, which is because the SIDS guidelines are based on them regulating their breathing by yours. And I don't count loo breaks, going to get a sandwich etc., as they are so quick. He just used to stay in the living room with us until we went to bed, so it wasn't really disruptive.

[HazleNutt]

DS is 4 months old, he didn't like the Moses basket and we have an open plan ground floor, so no need to move him around constantly. He sleeps his daytime naps downstairs with us, in Amby Hammock and will also sleep there in the evening, from 8-9 until I go to bed around 11-midnight. You can do everything - cook, eat, watch TV, he doesn't stir.

At night he sleeps in our room in a co-sleeper cot. www.amazon.de/FabiMax-Beistellbett-Babymax-Matratze-PROTECT/dp/B009WQFPJ4/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1383297805&sr=8-1&keywords=fabimax
Can't recommend it enough, you can grab the baby, feed without either of you waking up properly and just slide him back.

[BummyMummy77]

Too much quiet is not good for babies.
Watch tv. Hoover. You don't want them to be a fussy sleeper.

We're having ds in Moses basket when I'm awake and an arms reach co-sleeper (little cot that joins on to side of the bed so he's separate but I can just roll over and touch him) at night.