5 weeks pregnant and exhausted - Husband says I'm just being "lazy" - Am I???

[pinky27]

Hiya, I am only 5 weeks pregnant but feel absolutely shattered. Husband says that I can't possibly be this tired at this early stage and I'm just using it as an excuse to stay in bed. Did anyone else feel tired out at this point of their preg?or am I a lazy beast???

[Justus22]

Not lazy at all. I'm the night owl in this house usually and frequently sit up watching my fave shows until 1am gone, I can't get past 7pm in the first trimester. I hope you don't get the nausea and sickness too as he'll get a shock when you can't hold down vomit even opening the fridge or walking round the supermarket. I agree with the others get him to read up on the first trimester. Congratulations btw x

[pari2310x]

With my first pregnant and this one. I became exhausted at 5 weeks and it stopped at 20 weeks then started again at 32!

My husband is exactly the same

[EllyNC291]

Tell your husband to bog off - the first trimester is EXHAUSTING - that tiny poppy seed of a baby is sapping every bit of energy you have!!!!!! Week 6-9 I could barely get myself up the stairs to the bathroom I was so tired. Look after yourself hun, and don’t even entertain that you’re lazy, rest up! Xxx

[Leleophants]

Print off / show him on the nhs page where it says extreme tiredness is a symptom. The amount the baby is growing in those first few weeks is astronomical!

[JenMumma]

Oh shit zombie 🧟‍♀️ 🧟‍♂️ thread

[JenMumma]

Awwwww. . At 5 weeks with my first, I fell asleep on a bus and only woke up when my teeth (and slobber) were chattering on the window because it had stopped and the engine was doing that juddering thing. Xx tell him to put down his bullshit and pick up a book. The cheek ! Xx

[PBobs]

ZOMBIE THREAD.

[Campurp]

Ugh I remember feeling awful in my first trimester. I would have to leave work a bit early, I'd fall asleep on the tube then I'd get in and my DH would often find me passed out on the sofa when he got in.
I think it was the worst I'd felt and there was absolutely nothing I could do about it.

My DH was shocked at how early pregnancy had taken its toll on me... he then downloaded the bump app which helped him understand what to expect and how I'd be feeling. Maybe you'd OH could do with reading up to try to emphasise a bit with you?

So sorry OP but it gets better!

[Delenia]

I'm 5 weeks pregnant and can hardly get out of bed/off the sofa. I usually travel a lot for work and this feels like the most extreme jetlag I ever had. I can barely keep my eyes open and need a nap after taking a shower. Sounds like your DH hasn't read much about about pregnancy. Two seconds googling "early pregnancy" would tell him that pregnancy fatigue is very common and normal. Is there a reason he's not so involved? Maybe it's taking him time to adjust and that's why he's not reading anything. Maybe he's just being an arse. Either way you're definitely not lazy and hope your DH gets onboard soon.

[Flisspaps]

THIS THREAD IS ANCIENT!

[Bananamanfan]

Yes! For me the first 12 weeks so exhausting & no one knows you're pregnant, which makes it worse. Your dh's comments do not bode well.

[hmyh23]

I'm 7+4 and absolutely exhausted. Having to fight to stay awake after work until bedtime. Today I just feel really moody and tearful as well. Roll on the weekend!

[Flisspaps]

I'd hope the husband is now as tired given that he now owns a four year old and is eating his fucking words

ZOMBIE

[owltrousers]

I think your DH needs to educate himself! Perhaps get him a book about pregnancy and make sure he reads it all.

Its totally normal to feel exhausted at any stage of your pregnancy, its hard work growing another human!

[arbrighton]

@Beatrixs, given the thread was started 4 years ago, probably.....

ZOMBIE THREAD

[Beatrixs]

Haha omg what a douche. I really hope he wisened up! Wow.

[Slothlikesundays]

Not lazy at all, I was sleeping in, having an afternoon nap and then crawling to bed at 7pm. Not like me at all! It gets better I promise. Xx

[GilbertBlytheWouldGetIt]

As this thread is from 2013, I imagine all the op's pregnancy symptoms are long gone

[kiki22]

The tiredness is always the first sign of pregnancy for me I'm usually shattered between weeks 3&9 then it gets better

[MsFiremanSam]

11 weeks here and have been utterly, bone-achingly exhausted since week 4. This is baby #3 so DH knows the drill by now. He's done literally everything - bedtimes, cooking, washing - so I can rest.
My biggest concern in your position would be that if your DH isn't trying to support you and understand how you're feeling at this stage, what's he going to be like when you're recovering from labour, exhausted from night feeds, and caring for a newborn all day? Pregnancy and childbirth can be far from the bonding experience expected and can cause a real distance in a relationship which can take years to resolve. Does he have friends with kids who can help him understand what you're going through? Agree that a book is a good idea. Antenatal classes also really helped my DH the first time. Pregnancy can be a very lonely experience if you don't feel supported. Don't give up on making it clear what you need. Good luck.

[Avic89]

I'm 5 weeks so far and my husband says the same thing , guys just don't understand what we are going through . Feeling tired seems to be the norm. I sure hope it eases up a bit :(

[Scattymum101]

Raging for you!!!

With my second baby I knew I was pregnant 5 days before I had even missed a period as we took my dd1 swimming and by the time we got home I was so exhausted I took a two hour nap on the couch. My hubby immediately told me I was pregnant!!
I could barely function til around 13 weeks both times and extreme tiredness was probably my biggest symptom along with the nausea. We went on hol when I was 8 weeks pregnant and I slept most of it. With dd1 I would go to work, leave at 3 with the Intention of working at home, sleep til 6.30, eat dinner, back in bed an hour later and sleep through til 7am and be unable to wake up.

[Alice1983]

I love the Zombie alerts..... yes, my OH is like that even though he is not PG

[Green313]

I'm going through exactly the same thing, I don't think it's laziness it's true exhaustion I'd rather sleep all day n night if I could choose too. Husbands feels the same lol