I am clearly in a 
mood this afternoon, but I'm getting on for 18 weeks and still feeling pretty rough, TBH. Every time I read about/talk to anyone about pregnancy sickness/feeling crap the advice seems to be 'just let your DH/family/friends make a fuss of you' and 'just let people do things for you so you can rest'.
Does this actually happen in RL? I'm expecting DC2, DH and I both work full time, and while friends and family are pleased we're having another baby I don't think it's really featuring that high on their radar at the moment, so I'm certainly not being 'made a fuss of' (even - or especially - by DH!) and don't expect to be ffs. My DD is a toddler so not really many opportunities to rest and I'm not going to ask people to put themselves out so I can have a nap!
Is everyone else really being treated like porcelain and getting people cooing and fussing over their expanding stomach, and being tucked up in bed with a cold flannel on their brow? Am I really just a 
cow if they are?
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"Being made a fuss of" - does this actually happen...?
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Pregnant with DC3 and the novelty has definitely worn off!! Was made a fuss of with DC1, a bit with DC2 and hardly bloody any with this one! My mum cried when I told her I was pg with DC1, this time I didn't even get a hug??!!
NeedSomeSun lol! that about sums it up!
but to be fair DH always looks after me, bless him and I guess that's all that matters 
Soooo, it's not just me then!
Glad some of you are getting fussed over and looked after - milk it for all it's worth I say 
I think if I'm totally honest I am at the point where I'd like to have a few allowances made, whatever my OP protested! I'm knackered, still feel crap and I'm fed up with the 'just get on with it' attitude from DH. A couple of other friends are preggers with DC2 too and it makes me a bit sad/jealous/irrationally annoyed by the contrast that their DHs can't do enough for them.
Like some of you suggested perhaps I do need to ask for more (or just moan more about how crap I feel to get the point across!). DH does do stuff if I ask him but it's always slightly under sufferance, which upsets me as there's just such a lack of 'romance' around this pregnancy for him it seems, if that makes sense.
In terms of asking other people to help out I guess I do have a problem with it as I feel I should be able to manage it all (and I'd rather call in the favours when I have two under two on my hands...
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unique - that's pretty much all I do in the bathroom!
He's been away for a week and I know he will mention that I haven't done any hoovering. I feel grumpy already.
woolly hope you feel better soon. In fact I hope everyone feels better soon
I am pregnant with our first (following mc) and I have to admit my DF is making a huge fuss of me.. 
First trimester and feel like crap and his doing everything for me even though we both work full time... Probably wont happen with our second though.
Sorry to hear you feeling pants Op.... 
DH suggested that my nausea came on just about when it was time to do dinner for DS and DD, do bath and bedtime. Perhaps on purpose.
He forgot that with DS I had evening sickness rather than morning sickness.
He does do stuff if I ask, like clean the bathroom because the smell of the cleaning stuff made me heave.
nausea is getting better at 14 weeks, which means I will be cleaning the bathroom again. DH just doesn't notice a dirty bathroom. But he does notice everything else 
Before I had children I used to think "you're pregnant, not ill". And then I got pregnant... I don't think like that any more. I was a bit of a twat.
Uch i get the pregnant not ill rubbish from my bil because my sister is a freaking martyr who does every little thing just so she can moan bil Never helps 
i asked her a few weeks ago why did she not leave the kids with bil and have a kip - she said she felt guilty 'dumping' them on him they are his kids too! Martyr i tell you.
Exactly.
he's too busy whinging about his own little aches and pains, I mention one of mine and it's all oh but you are supposed to you are pregnant, mine is actually real...
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Not at all. In fact it's even gone the other way! "you're pregnant not ill"
I'm on dc3 and dp did everything round the house pkus seen to the kids mist if the time right up until 26 weeks - 16/17 weeks of sickness, constant tiredness, mood swings, nausea, thrush, urine infection and last but not least suspected pre eclampsia right up till 26 weeks meant i got to lay about and moan all day.
Now i'm 28 weeks i finally feel a bit more 'me' poor dp keeps looking at me funny when he sees me doing house work
Everyone else is not too excited but ds is only 18 months so i wouldn't expect much really :)
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