"Oh Crap" day 6 little progress

[eeanne]

DD is 24 months and we started on Saturday. She can now hold her pee so when we go out with clothes on we don't have accidents. But she is getting increasingly unwilling to sit on the potty or toilet. Today she did a few drops in the potty. 15 min later she peed all over the floor. When she has to go she jumps up and down and starts crying but will NOT go to the potty.

Poo she is outright refusing to do on the potty and saving for her naptime/bedtime Nappy. Last night we had a midnight sheet change party as she let loose overnight.

I'm feeling like giving up completely as the accidents are more trouble to deal with than the nappy changing. Or is it normal to have a toddler getting more scared of the potty? Days 1-2 were better to be honest.

We've tried both separate potty and insert, no difference.

Today will be day 7, I think if we don't see any improvement I'm definitely quitting for good.

I honestly did not rush DD, she ticked all the readiness signs, she's extremely verbal, she only poos at home (in diapers obviously) and hides when doing it, etc. But either she's not ready or the "Oh Crap" method doesn't suit her. It certainly doesn't suit me, we've never cleaned up more pee and poo from the floor/bed/clothing in our lives.

I would think very carefully about attempting "Oh Crap" in future especially with a younger toddler.

My daughter did similar at age 2 years 3 or 4 months. Started off enthusiastically and then wouldn't go on the potty. We just kept going - between days 5 and 10 she wouldn't go on the potty by choice, though we were managing to whip her on the loo (using the tactic of surprise) before we went out anywhere. Most wees on the floor. I was not asking her to "try" to sit on the potty, just leaving it up to her. From day ten it seemed to click that this was it from now on and she started going on the potty herself

Like you I potty trained because I had a baby due. In hindsight it was much more difficult having a newly potty trained child with a newborn - she would need urgent help with her clothes to get on the potty in time (generally while I was feeding or putting the baby to sleep), or her bum wiping or whatever. Difficult to take her to the loo while out with a pushchair or the baby in a sling. Would have been much easier if she had been in nappies in the newborn stage

IMO 24 months is way too young. It will take so much longer than it would when they are older.

I started 3 years 3 months and nailed it within a couple of months. Day and night.

A 2 year old isn't going to get the wrong message because you go back to nappies. They won't have a clue.

However, they (and probably you too) will become highly stressed and upset at constant accidents and worrying about using the toilet in time.

Seriously, put the potty away, go back to nappies, and wait till they are a little older.

I just want to respond to everyone saying "too young"

I am following the plan from the book "Oh Crap!" which recommends 20-30 months.

I'm not clear if people who are saying it's too young are meaning in the context of this training method or just in general. Because according to the plan I tried 24 months is the ideal time.

I used Oh Crap when my DD was 22mo so I don’t think it’s the method per se. Whether it suits you is obviously a different matter. You shouldn’t be cleaning up loads so there’s definitely something not working and obviously you don’t want your DD to be distressed. How’s this morning been?

I trained my DD with 6 week old DS so if you want to leave it a few months, it’s definitely not an impossible task to do with a baby.

She projectile vomited for no apparent reason and then the second she got a nappy on before her nap she pooped.

No pee or poo in potty.

I'm done. She's miserable and so am I.

Oh no! Hope your DD is feeling better soon.

Hope your DD is better and I'm with you on the too young part. If she's showing signs and you've made a good attempt at it - your not giving up your just postponing it for a suitable time which the Oh Crap author did herself with her DS.

Maybe she's not feeling well and it all got a bit too much. Day 3 was like a pressure cooker for us and then on Day 4 I prompted but basically left DS to it and he did his first poo in the potty completely by himself (bare bum). You and DD can and will do it when the time is right for you both. Good luck xx

It's too young for her. Like walking, first words, etc they get things at different stages.

We tried (briefly) a couple of times when she was younger but it clicked when she was just over three and she was pretty reliable very quickly (although still in nappies for nighttime, which I think is normal for a while longer).

Have you tried stickers? I know that sound dumb and I'm sorry if you already have but it really worked for us.

I am following the plan from the book "Oh Crap!" which recommends 20-30 months. I'm not clear if people who are saying it's too young are meaning in the context of this training method or just in general. Because according to the plan I tried 24 months is the ideal time.

But every child is different.
If she's getting stressed, she's not ready. Simple as.

We've gone to pull ups today and DD has asked to sit on the potty twice! No action yet but compared to the past few days when she was refusing to go near it, big improvement!

I'm going to buy some treats (choc/stickers) and offer them if she uses the potty but otherwise will continue pull ups and letting her choose when to do sit. The mood at home is much improved