DS was potty trained months ago. Now he is waiting until nappy goes on 2 poo, twice a day. Driving us mad!!

[CrapBag]

DS (2.11) has been potty trained for a while, a good 4 months or so. Got it really quickly, initially some pooing problems but we sorted that out.

Now he has developed a very annoying habit of only going when he has his nappy on for his daytime sleep and nighttime.

We ask him before if he wants to go, he always says no. 10 minutes later he is out of bed telling us he has pooed in him nappy. He knows he is doing it, he is actually doing it on purpose. He is perfectly capable of using the toilet and pot and hasn't had a problem in doing so. I can't remember the last time we had an accident, so why is he waiting and pooing in his nappy!!!!

We are getting through 3 a day when I am trying to save money, its so frustrating when there is no need for it.

Anyone else had the same problem and how did you deal/overcome it?

[CrapBag]

He is getting more private about it, but he had no problem asking us to go and wait in the bedroom then calls us when he has finished and we went with this. Its just so frustrating when I don't know why he is doing it and we are using the same amount of nappies a day as we were before we trained him. Trying to save some money!

[fizzpops]

Is it possible that he prefers the 'privacy' of a nappy? DD often wants 'a moment' for a poo and makes me leave the bathroom and calls me back when she has finished. She never used to mind when she was first potty trained but has seemingly got more self conscious. She is 2.8.

[CrapBag]

We got past all of this though.

DS did have a problem with pooing originally. He was terrified of it but we cracked it and this was a good few months ago. He has had no problems whatsoever since. Its just been the last couple of weeks that he has started doing it again. He isn't afraid of his poos, he tells me quite defiantly that he is going to do it in his nappy if I ask him about it, so he does know exactly what he is doing. When he went to the toilet before bed the other night and actually done it in the toilet instead of waiting for his nappy, he very proudly told us that he had done it in the toilet, then nap time the next day he hadn't done it and announced it proudly (to praise from me). The next day, straight back to doing it in his nappy again.

[TanteRose]

Don't pressure him too much...

My DD would not poo in the loo for a couple of months after training (no problem with weeing) so she would tell me she needed a poo, and we would go into the bathroom, stand by the loo, put a nappy on and she would poo in it, I would take it off and flush the poo down the loo...

try and make the association between pooing and going in to the bathroom.

Good luck - it will take a few weeks more maybe?

[Zil131]

There's a theory that DCs like to keep thier poo close to them... Something about feeling like a bit of them is falling away, so pooing in a nappy is a security thing.
Try to make fun out of it, give the poo a name, talk about the party and all his friends at the sewage works he wants to go and see. If he's in the nappy he has to go in the bin etc etc.
Worked (sort of) for my DS

Good luck!

[TheNoodlesIncident]

I would agree with yesterday, try not using the nappies, at least for the daytime nap. It may be the message he is getting is nappies are for pooing/peeing in, even if you believe he knows different. You will get wet pants I am sure, but if that's what it takes to get him to realise wet underwear is not comfortable and he is better off using the potty/toilet before he naps. Rather than asking him verbally I would also just take him to the potty and encourage him to see what he can do if he tries.

Sorry if you've already tried this and it doesn't work, I don't have any other theories ideas. But if you don't try to do without the nappies, I doubt your DS will of his own accord. 'Tis Sod's Law...

[CrapBag]

He isn't remotely dry at night and his daytime nappy hasn't been dry for a long time.

[thisisyesterday]

get rid of the nappies.