Baby only calling me in bed

[incognito78]

So we co sleep with my almost 2 year old. Before it was just me and her and not it’s her dad too.

She’s mainly a mummy’s girl but she switches sides as and when she needs but generally it’s mummy. However when we’re in bed if she wakes she’ll never wake her dad up it’s always me. No matter how many times I tell her to ask daddy or wake daddy she literally won’t

I don’t get why she does that

You've answered your own question because she's a Mummy's girl.

I would start moving her out of your bed. She needs to start learning to sleep independently. Perhaps in her own bed next to yours to start with, then to another room

Thank you for the advice but I'll be sure to decide when she should sleep independently x

You’ve just said she’s a mummy’s girl. If you don’t like it, get her in her own bed.

Time for her to be in her own room.
Or you could sleep train her.

If you don't like it you need to get her to sleep in her own bed

Because she senses you want her there and won’t have the same reaction if she wakes dad up.

Of course she’s only going to wake you. Thats the dynamic that has been in place all this time. It used to be just you and her in the bed, she currently favours you, she’s never going to choose her dad as things stand.
If you are determined to continue to bed share then you’ve got a couple of choices.
1- accept that this is the way it is right now she will grow out of it eventually.
2- work on changing the dynamic, improve the relationship with her father, make yourself less available, make things more even and she might start picking him more.