Hurrah Kayz!
Vag what an amazing story. The things people did to children back then without a second thought :( Yet how wonderful that he was loved and later reunited with his sister.
I too would like to get ds2 going to bed in the evening. It is very hit and miss and he still wakes loads. he doesn't always want to feed so it isn't a feeding to sleep thing, but he needs to be patted back to sleep or walked around. I can't yet pop him to bed and have him go to sleep so at bedtime if he doesn't feed to sleep I won't get him down until he is knackered and pulling his ear off and then can walk him around and he will go off and i can put him down. I'm just hoping that when top tooth number 2 finishes coming through we will have a bit of a break in things and we can get hom more settled. I don't mind feeding at night I honestly don't, but I could do without waking at 8, 8.30. coming downstairs because we cna't get him back to sleep. Back up at 10. feed at 11. Struggle to go back down. Back down at 1. Wake and patted at 1. Feed at 2. Unsettled generally between 3 and 5.30 thrashing around hitting me. Dh settles him at 6. Wake at 6.30 for the day. That is about typical for us! I don't get it tbh, he just really struggles to sleep yet he has always gone to sleep in a variety of ways so he isn't used to a particular thing (feeding, sling, patting, dh walking him around, even pushchair occasionally) but he jsut cna't seem to get himself off so I think he wakes between sleep cycles. When he wakes in the evening and screams to much we bring him downstairs he very obviously WANTS to be asleep. Oh well, it will pass It had just better pass before March! I can't even leave him to grizzle for 10 mins to try to nudge him into self settling because the child throws up at the slightest thing. He cries he vomits, he gags on food he vomits, milk catches at the back of his throat while feeding he vomits so leaving him really isn't an option!
I still remember the blissful week when he was 4 months old that he self settled. Fed in the evening, rolled over then chatted to himself for a bit and went to sleep. It was amazing. He jsut fell asleep wherever in the day when tired too and napped. It was jsut wonderful! Where is that baby?
I have wondered about putting him straight in a bed to see if that makes a difference? We have the side up on the cot because he is mobile but he does prefer being in bed. So I wonder about getting a bed (we will need one in a year or so anyway) and a bed rail and putting him in it? Then I can feed him in there in the evening. BUT he would be in with ds1 so if it doesn't work ds1 will get disturbed. Ho hum.