I grew up in a religious family, with a preacher as a father, so basically spent most Sundays of my life listening to my dad tell me what I should believe. I did believe it, though I was never a very "good" Christian, although I would do my best to read the Bible, pray and read lots of religious books to help me be better at the whole thing. While my siblings left church as soon as they could, I stayed. I blamed many things for my failure to be a better Christian, one of which was never having any Christian friends (it was a small, ageing church). I finally moved to another church in the hope that it would help me, but it actually did the opposite - seeing all these people at my age and stage of life with genuine faith slowly confirmed to me what I had feared for a while, that I never really believed at all. I was a fake. I know I have issues around disappointing my parents and now wonder if I was just so desperate to please them that I forced myself to "believe". I stopped going to church months ago, originally on a temporary basis for a specific reason, but just never went back, mainly because I don't know if I can face being there knowing that I'm such a fraud. What I feel worst about is that I have young children who will grow up with no knowledge of God unless I take them to church. Should I take them to church? Attend church not knowing if I actually believe any of it any more? What if it's true and I'm preventing them from hearing about it? The whole thing is weighing really heavily on my mind, and I have depressive tendencies, which doesn't help. I feel so guilty and confused.
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Finally admitting to myself that I don't believe
Doglovesbooksx · 08/04/2024 22:53
Lesina · 08/04/2024 22:58
It’s not true, religion is a concept defined by man to control other people. Just teach your children to be nice to people, don’t fuck anyone over, be kind to animals. If you feel you want ceremony find a Buddhist temple. They are great places. The Christian god is a lovely thought… but doesn’t exist :)
pointythings · 09/04/2024 15:15
I think you should seek help for your depression because you deserve happiness. Be honest with your children about what you do and do not believe - they will find their own path to their own beliefs, whatever they may be. Take in the small everyday wonders the world presents us with every day and take pleasure in them. You don't need a religious faith to be a good person or to be happy. You'll find your place eventually.
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EducatingArti · 28/04/2024 15:16
There is a book by a Canadian author, Sarah Bessey, which I think you might find helpful.
It is called "Out of Sorts"
https://www.amazon.co.uk/Out-Sorts-Making-Peace-Evolving/dp/0232532397/ref=mp_s_a_1_1?crid=BIJUCYGT7WRL&%3Bdib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.OhUrroIu7t5x3Y6IRTw_E7LgoOicITVauVkUxR-HJJw.p5skQnLaI3nj1ce1X8i6n2LrrlgVBhnaMbPPchHuyWs&%3Bdib_tag=se&%3Bkeywords=out%20of%20sorts%20sarah%20bessey&%3Bqid=1714313729&%3Bsprefix=out%20of%20so%2Caps%2C155&%3Bsr=8-1&tag=mumsnet&ascsubtag=mnforum-21
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