I have two DD's 27 and 29. Divorced when they were little, have been a single parent trying to hold down a job and look after them for most of their lives.
27 y/o diagnosed with autism, exhibits challenging (but not violent) behavior.
29 y/o is bipolar and has psychosis. Last night's DD29 got violent and I had to call the police twice. I am too scared to have her in the house.
Her cousin had cannabis induced psychosis and ended up murdering his flatmate.
DD 29 blames me for all her problems. I don't argue with her and have apologised repeatedly even where I don't agree with the facts but she is developing a visceral hatred of me and her sister. I was so scared yesterday.
Police eventually took her to my friend's Airbnb but they can only keep her for two days. She has stayed with my mother and other family members in the past but this always breaks down.
She is off her meds and refusing medical help for dear of being sectioned. I've arranged private individual and family therapy but she refuses to attend the family therapy.
If I don't take her back she will be homeless on Monday.
I don't know what to do for the best.
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AIBU ejecting mentally ill DD 29 from the house
Baabaablackshee · 03/09/2022 20:14
Isahlo · 04/09/2022 19:44
So if the police take her, they will more than likely take her to your local place of safety 136 suite for a mental health assessment she’s unlikely to spend a night in the cells
Baabaablackshee · 03/09/2022 21:53
I did call the crisis team and they spoke to her but it only made things worse. Paramedics then came to the house and spent over an hour with her. She refused to go to hospital with them. The police said they would arrest her (as a last resort) but I didn't want her spending the night in the cells.
Wibbly1008 · 03/09/2022 20:20
Can you call the crisis team? Or is she under a specialist department at the hospital you can contact to inform them of her spiralling? I am so sorry you are going through this OP, must be terrifying.
bellac11 · 04/09/2022 09:59
For people mentioning sectioning, its almost impossible to get a hospital bed or for the system to recognise that someone needs detention.
We have people circling around police custody, then police detention, then taken to general hospital for assessment, then they discharge themselves, no one seems to stop this, then round and round again every single time theres an incident
Perhaps its different and more positive in other parts of the country. As OP says above she refused to go to the hospital with the paramedics, if the police detain her it will only be to see if the MH team will come out and assess, sometimes they wont even do that, other times they do but will then discharge their duties to the day teams and as I said round and round it goes.
OP is not responsible for that or for waiting for the inevitable attack on her or her daughter
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