Long story short. Our youngest child moved out 18 months ago and after 30 years of parenting, we finally got to live alone.
I have to say, we never thought it would be so good. Tidy, no lights left on, no slamming doors etc. Do what we want when we want etc.
Unfortunately, one of our children's marriage ended recently and she asked if she could move back in with our 6yo grand child until she got herself sorted.
We've always said our kids will always have somewhere to stay in their hour of need and parenting lasts forever. We'd always help when needed.
Trouble is, we've since found out she's up to her eyeballs in debt and it will take at least 2 years to clear.
We really want to help to get her back on her feet, debt free so have paid it off for her (£20k) and said she has to pay us back from the money she saves from not having her own living expenses (£1k) per month.
We love her and our Grandchild dearly but we don't know if we can go back to living long term having a 6yo running round the house. We're also getting roped into child care of on days off and running around at the weekend.
Don't want to appear to being selfish, but we've raised our children and don't want to start raising more. We want to enjoy a quieter life and do the things we want to do.
We just feel so guilty for feeling this way.
Are we being terrible parents??
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Beyondbelief16 · 26/11/2018 08:58
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