I have one DC who I absolutely adore. I always thought I’d want two DCs, but since having my first DC I am not so sure that I actually want two DCs anymore. I think probably because I vastly underestimated how exhausting having a baby is (I am also pretty certain I had a high needs baby).
Is there anyone out there who has had two DCs but not been 100% sure beforehand? If yes what was your experience?
I don’t want to leave it too long but I don’t feel I can bring a second DC into the world without being sure.
My initial reasons (and the reasons that still prey on my mind) for wanting a second DC are factored around giving my DC1 a sibling, as well as a hint of social pressure.
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Second baby - 100% certain?
EssexMamisoa · 18/03/2023 20:26
anotherscroller · 19/03/2023 17:15
My biggest worry is I can’t imagine loving another as much as I do dc1. But everyone says you do.
Ollyr1993 · 02/05/2023 17:27
Hi OP,
Have you had any more thoughts on having another since your first post?
I am in a very similar boat. Pregnan was tough, traumatic birth and then high needs baby with reflux and barely slept until now (he's recently turned 2). We are debating whether to have another but financially it really change things for us. We're comfortable now, have nice holidays and meals out, we're just about sleeping properly again. We will also need to move to a bigger house if we have another as we're in a 2 bed that's just not big enough for a family of 4.
I loved certain aspects of the baby phase but in general, I found it very very tough. The lack of sleep, baby constantly screaming just meant I lived in solid anxiety for over a year. Returning to work was so difficult. I have to remind myself that part doesn't last forever, you're having another child not just a baby and I want my son to know what it is to have a brother or sister. I also think that whilst it will be hard, our love for our kids is infinite and we'd love another just as much once they're here. Part of me says just go for it, I'll be more confident this time and it'll all work out. The other part says don't rock the boat, it's too hard and too exhausting so stick with one 😖
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