Hi everyone,
Looking for all your best tips and advice :)
Im expecting first baby soon and right now I wear ear plugs every night because DP snores so loudly! He’s tried a few solutions to reduce it and I know feels really bad about it, but it is what it is for now.
With pregnancy insomnia making that harder to handle I’m planning to move into the spare bedroom as I know once baby arrives I won’t be wearing ear plugs anyway.
But my question is - how - if at all - can DP help with the night shifts if me and baby are in a whole separate bedroom? Presumably he’ll be totally oblivious to when we’re awake / feeding / asleep, and I’m hoping to breast feed so there’s that too. Is it a question of resigning myself to doing everything myself for the first few weeks / months? I feel like if we were in the same bedroom at least he could wake up to change nappies, put baby back down to sleep, bring snacks or water etc. How did your DP help you?
And assuming I’ll need the ear plugs back to get a good night of sleep when we share a bedroom again - how long realistically are we going to be in separate rooms? As I don’t love that setup and would like to be back together when possible. I’m wondering if once baby gets to a certain age I’d feel comfortable wearing ear plugs and just letting DP settle baby if he wakes up in the night? But appreciate I’m totally ignorant yet about how mum instinct kicks in after birth and so that might be super unrealistic :)
Thanks for any experience and wisdom you can share.
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DP snores - separate bedrooms - how can he help with newborn?
LuckyEarthDragon · 28/01/2023 03:03
LuckyEarthDragon · 28/01/2023 03:34
Thanks Pirrin, that’s really helpful.
Worst case scenario there’s no solution to his snoring bar something drastic like surgery (which he’s suggested in the past and I’m not a huge fan of) at what point with young kids are ear plugs back on the cards from a mum / instinct perspective?
SunshineAndFizz · 28/01/2023 06:04
Trust me, both being awake for every feed/wake up won't work. You have to tag team. My DH would have the baby 8-12 at night while I slept for a chunk and then we'd swap over.
And for the first couple of weeks I just did all 'nightshifts', it's hard but just accent it'll be a tiring time. You get through it.
RampantIvy · 28/01/2023 09:30
I agree with @ohdizzy. If you are breastfeeding why should both of you be awake? It just means that both of you are tired, and what is the benefit of that?
Boneweary · 28/01/2023 06:37
Every time there is a snoring man on here MN act as if it’s a personal sort of character flaw that must be amended immediately!
We just sleep in different rooms, it’s never been a big deal.
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