Hi all.
I have a three month old girl and she is the light of my life.
Although since having her I've had some strange thoughts about everyday life and certain situations. For example: partner was holding her and went to check on the dinner... I was frightened he was gonna drop her in the pot of boiling water or something (ridiculous I know)
But these kind of thoughts keep on coming.
Myself and my family are very close, always have been but my parents are divorced.
Now my little girl is getting older I want her to start having a couple hours here and there with family members without me, so she can interact with people other than me and her dad and also gives me a break.
So I want her to interact and know her family, I don't want them to feel like strangers... but at the same time, I'm frightened out of my mind..."if sister takes her upstairs, will she fall?" "If she won't stop crying what will they do"
I totally trust my family. But why do these thoughts come into my head.
It's driving me nuts and making me very upset and anxious. It's like I know it's rubbish but my mind won't stop producing them...
Has anyone had thoughts like these before since having children?
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NaatQ968 · 27/01/2023 00:44
NaatQ968 · 27/01/2023 01:22
Yep I've had the exact same thoughts. I should be asleep now but I needed to write this, get it off my chest. I have such a supportive family and I just feel like I'm wasting precious time with my little girl and her family who love and adore her all because of these awful thoughts.
Are you still like this? Or has it died down a bit? Xx
Lavender14 · 27/01/2023 01:15
Oh I totally get this. I have a 2 month old and it has ruined car journeys for me, I get intrusive thoughts of what if another car comes into our lane and hits us, what if my husband didn't brake in time and there's an accident, what if a car left the road and hit me out walking with the pram or what if I fell unconscious and baby was left alone. Was talking to a friend about it recently because she also experienced it as a new mum and her explanation is that it's because your heart now lives outside of your body in this little person and you can't control that. Which i thought was lovely and summed it up pretty well. I do think the jump in anxiety is normal providing it isn't stopping you from going about your day to day life or is getting you down. Your job as a mum is to keep her safe so your brain is in overdrive looking for potential danger because you love her and are being a really attentive mummy. It's a sign of the wonderful bond you have with her. If you feel its getting out of hand I'd get a chat with your hv or gp, it shouldn't get to the point where its making life difficult.
Justasec321 · 27/01/2023 01:22
The baby is three months old I think?
These intrusive thoughts are draining BUT can also indicate that while you might think you would like a break from the baby you are not ready!
I always found it very difficult in the first months to be separated from them. I am just built that way. One of my friends found it much easier - would hand the baby off and happily go out for a while.
I was only able to that with ease month six or seven.
Lavender14 · 27/01/2023 01:15
Oh I totally get this. I have a 2 month old and it has ruined car journeys for me, I get intrusive thoughts of what if another car comes into our lane and hits us, what if my husband didn't brake in time and there's an accident, what if a car left the road and hit me out walking with the pram or what if I fell unconscious and baby was left alone. Was talking to a friend about it recently because she also experienced it as a new mum and her explanation is that it's because your heart now lives outside of your body in this little person and you can't control that. Which i thought was lovely and summed it up pretty well. I do think the jump in anxiety is normal providing it isn't stopping you from going about your day to day life or is getting you down. Your job as a mum is to keep her safe so your brain is in overdrive looking for potential danger because you love her and are being a really attentive mummy. It's a sign of the wonderful bond you have with her. If you feel its getting out of hand I'd get a chat with your hv or gp, it shouldn't get to the point where its making life difficult.
afty · 27/01/2023 01:13
Your mind makes you think that because anxiety makes you question everything.
But the fact you know they won't - and that you can see the differentiation between that and the anxiety - is fantastic. 
Your mind makes you think that because anxiety makes you question everything.
But the fact you know they won't - and that you can see the differentiation between that and the anxiety - is fantastic.
afty · 27/01/2023 01:07
Hi OP!
Definitely talk to your GP if you can, it sounds like anxiety. I had terrible anxiety last year and was referred for CBT and given Sertraline.
Mine was very similar to yours - catastrophising and imaging the worst possible scenario eg. taking my DD on the London Underground and panicking in case someone pushed her as the train was coming along the platform, so many everyday scenarios became terrifying. Anxiety is exhausting, let alone with your little one being just a few months.
Do speak to someone, honestly it will get better 
StormSeason · 27/01/2023 00:59
Absolutely talk to someone!Asap!
You don't have to continue to feel this way and it's great that are actually recognizing it instead of just "living" with it.Although you want to be thriving right?!
Good luck to you and enjoy your precious baby❤️
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Aquamarine1029 · 27/01/2023 00:52
It's anxiety and it's manifesting itself with intrusive thoughts. This is very common and there are many ways to help yourself in dealing with them.
I highly recommend the DARE book about anxiety.
minipie · 27/01/2023 00:47
Could be post natal anxiety perhaps? Obviously all new mothers worry about their baby’s safety but if it is getting out of hand and feels irrational then it might be turning into PNA. Have you spoken to anyone about it, your partner or family? Speaking to your GP might be a good idea (although sadly IME there’s a big variation on how helpful GPs are on this).
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