I'm in such a mess with dd2

[sheepgomeep]

I feel such a failure with dd2, i really really do. she is 14 weeks tomorrow and so changeable and contrary. She was big at birth 9 pound 8 oz and is over 14 pound now yet not very hungry, well one day she is next day she isn't. Her sleeping varies so much too. sometimes she will sleep 9 pm till 5 am but mostly she needs feeding every 2 to 3 hours. quite often she will go 8 till 1am but she keeps changing her routine and i'm so knackered.She is ff as well

We used to swaddle her but she gets out of her swaddle now and she keeps rubbing her eyes till she cries and wakes up. last night she rolled over and slept for 4 hours on her front. I've tried co sleeping but she fidgets so much.

first two dc were ok, ds slept throught at 12 weeks and i co slept with dd till she was 13 months and that was fine.

Its really making me feel down.. I had a emergency c section, my scar didn't heal, a blood transfusion and my dad died when ellie was 3 weeks old so maybe its my problems that are causing iyswim

does this get better, has anyone else had a dc like mine

[gibberish]

sheepgomeep you have my sympathies. I have 4 children. dd2 and dd4 were very placid, contented babies. dd1 and dd3 were just like your dd2. Nothing I could do would comfort them. They were very irritable, unsettled and didn't feed properly. There were no health reasons for this. I finally decided that some babies just don't LIKE being babies...

It DOES get better though. dd1 turned the corner at 5.5 mths and dd3 about 4 months.

It is very hard going at the time though. Try to get as much support as you can - you've already been through a very difficult time.

[cluelessnchaos]

Oh my god you are talking about my ds, after 2dd, thought I had it sussed and he blew my world apart, it will get easier, you know it will. At about 10 weeks my DH had to take a week off work and let me just deal with him, I know its not practical but it really helped to only have to deal with one and get it all in perspective.

[NAB3]

She is a baby. That is why you don't know where you are with her!
You are not a failure. You have had a lot to contend with and you are probably too knackreed to know where to start.
Make a list of what you feel are problems and then try and tackle them one at a time. Babies do pick up on Mum's moods so try and act a bit calmer, confident and in control and before you know it it will become second nature. Good luck.