When to STOP using the baby monitor??

[CrookshanksinJimmyChoos]

DS is now 15months old. His room is just down the hall from ours.

Lately, he's been quite whingey in his sleep, nothing that requires us to get out of bed and see to him - just normal sleep noises I guess- he doesn't even wake up. However, although it doesn't bother me, as I'm deaf, DH is picking up everything on the monitor and as a result is waking up 3-4 times a night and although he doesn't have to get out, its making him very tired.

We were considering not using the monitor and just leaving our door open so that when he cries/coughs, we are still alerted to him, but DH won't be disturbed by every single snuffle, but we are feeling about not using the monitor...

Any experiences please?

[Tutter]

still use one for ds1 (2.2yo)

big house

door handles too high for him to reach to get out of the room

wouldn't hear him without one

but we turn volume right down to minimum - otherwise every little noise would disturn us

[yummybunnymummy]

am just thinking about the number of animals who leave their baby to sleep alone, without being to hear it.....errrr....still thinking...

..golly are we talking about our children here?

dread to think what some people here would say about co-sleeping!

[themoon66]

Never used a monitor for either of em. Never lived in a big enough house.

Just waiting for someone to come on this thread and say they use one to listen to their teenage DS masterbating!

[oliveoil]

our house is long and dd2 especially is at the other end from where I am atm

not sure how long we will use them, they are probably welded onto the shelf by now and will become heirlooms

[IdrisTheDragon]

We used it on and off until DS was 15 months (when we moved house) and then I just never got round to plugging it in again.

DD (as neglected second child, born when DS was 22 months) has never had a monitor.

We leave our door open at night and hear everything we need to (sadly there is more than we would like, but that is a different story...)

[Bouquetsofdynomite]

Yummybunnymummy, how do you know people can't hear their babies? Do you think people don't test these things?

[cba]

i am with you olive, ds2 4 has a monitor and dd 2 also has a monitor. There is no way I would hear them downstairs. ds1 6 gets out of bed if he needs me, normally creeping down the stairs, turn round and he is stood there, frightens the life out of me.

[FluffyMummy123]

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[cba]

what is a freaky helicopter parent?

[FluffyMummy123]

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[oliveoil]

yes, leave the door open so they get disturbed by music noise or tv

OR

shut the door and have a monitor

[cba]

but the kids are left alone, would not hear them if screaming. dd who is 2 in cot, so couldnt get out unless scaled the sides of the cot. ds2 who is four, dosent like getting out of bed on his own as he gets scared. ds1 who is 6 gets out of bed and finds me.

What is weird about that?

[cba]

i was just thinking that olive.

[FluffyMummy123]

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[oliveoil]

dd1 has never ever got out of bed. So she could cry for 2 or 3 hours without me hearing her

hmmmmmmm

anyway, I don't have to justify myself to a fish

[oliveoil]

hahahahhaah at bow and scrape

surely you mean SHUT UP IT IS BEDTIME AND THIS IS MY TIME AND I AM VERY VERY CROSS

or is that just this house?

[FrannyandZooey]

Ditto olive

ds knows he is not meant to get out of bed at night time

we have monitor

it is useful to me, so I have it

[cba]

ds2 scared because ds1 tells a great scary story to him during the day, ds2 revels in adding gore to the story, resulting in him not wanting to get out of bed. Boys being boys.

What next?

[FunkyGlassSlipper]

I think people should stop feeling the need to justify if they want to hear their children!

But, fwiw, I stopped monitor for Dd1 at about 18 months.
I stopped monitor for DD2 at about 3 months as we knew when she was very upset. However, I have just got it out again at 8 months for during the day at naptime when she is in her cot and I am in the garden as it is too far to hear.

[oliveoil]

dd2 is currently calling mummmeeeeeee through Monitor #2

I am ignoring atm as it does not sound screechy. Yet.

[pucca]

I used a monitor for my dd until ds was born, she was 2.6 yr old, we omved house etc though before hand so felt i needed it as she was a bit unsettled in a new room, she was fine though from that age.

[cba]

now olive, if you didnt have that monitor on you would not be as well informed

do you get intereference (sp?) across your two monitors?

[brimfull]

have never used a monitor,I can hear everything in this house

[oliveoil]

no, different makes of monitor

one an all singing dancing tomy one with lights the other a bog standard one

she is still at it so may have to investigate

I confess to being v soft and also do not give a flying fart on this either

[cba]

here here olive, i have just started my helicopter shall we whizz up together or one at a time, get one slice get another free?