When to STOP using the baby monitor??

[CrookshanksinJimmyChoos]

DS is now 15months old. His room is just down the hall from ours.

Lately, he's been quite whingey in his sleep, nothing that requires us to get out of bed and see to him - just normal sleep noises I guess- he doesn't even wake up. However, although it doesn't bother me, as I'm deaf, DH is picking up everything on the monitor and as a result is waking up 3-4 times a night and although he doesn't have to get out, its making him very tired.

We were considering not using the monitor and just leaving our door open so that when he cries/coughs, we are still alerted to him, but DH won't be disturbed by every single snuffle, but we are feeling about not using the monitor...

Any experiences please?

[FluffyMummy123]

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[CrookshanksinJimmyChoos]

Have never heard term helicopter parent before..... I don't like it....bloody hell, too much judging on this site at times!

[edam]

Am still using a monitor in the evenings for ds, aged four. It's a three-storey house, his room is at the top, we simply wouldn't hear him without it. Don't care if someone calls me a helicopter parent, tbh, this is the way things are in my house and I'm not changing it because a couple of internet pixies say so.

[CrookshanksinJimmyChoos]

Oooh now there is an idea.....

What's the betting we will forget they are there and I'll be posting on mnet in a few days

'Aibu that DH won't help with washing up cos I've got a broken arm from going arse over tip on cushions'....



lol!

[Bouquetsofdynomite]

Stick a couple of pillows next to the cot , he'll soon learn.

[CrookshanksinJimmyChoos]

Ooohh...didn't expect this many replies...nor a 'debate' about helicopter parents!!

Mind you, the climbing in and out thing has made me a bit about when he starts climbing out of his cot if we don't have monitor....will we only realise it when its too late and he's bashed himself on the floor???!!! arghh!!!



He does have a babygate across his room door though....and floor is carpeted.....

[Jojay]

Surely the point to all this is that in some houses you can hear you children and in some you can't????

Sounds quite straight forward to me..........

[Bouquetsofdynomite]

"yes, leave the door open so they get disturbed by music noise or tv"
Ah but have you ever tested to see whether they would actually be disturbed by music noise or tv? I would hate to spend my evenings creeping about the house for fear of waking the kids.
I can't believe so many Mumsnetters live in palaces so big they can't hear a 2yr old yelling from his bed. Have honestly just measuerd and it is 50' from the end of my 4yr old DD's bed to the foot of mine and she wakes me from there every morning.

[boo64]

Some of us might be helicopter parents Icod but at least my posts are vaguely intelligible.

But seriously, I have a monitor on for ds as a. he is still in a cot and b. I couldn't possibly hear him in the living room.

When he moves to a proper bed I shall, like others here, try and discourage him from getting out of bed.

Your views were rather harsh don't you think - live and let live.

[cba]

here here olive, i have just started my helicopter shall we whizz up together or one at a time, get one slice get another free?

[oliveoil]

no, different makes of monitor

one an all singing dancing tomy one with lights the other a bog standard one

she is still at it so may have to investigate

I confess to being v soft and also do not give a flying fart on this either

[brimfull]

have never used a monitor,I can hear everything in this house

[cba]

now olive, if you didnt have that monitor on you would not be as well informed

do you get intereference (sp?) across your two monitors?

[pucca]

I used a monitor for my dd until ds was born, she was 2.6 yr old, we omved house etc though before hand so felt i needed it as she was a bit unsettled in a new room, she was fine though from that age.

[oliveoil]

dd2 is currently calling mummmeeeeeee through Monitor #2

I am ignoring atm as it does not sound screechy. Yet.

[FunkyGlassSlipper]

I think people should stop feeling the need to justify if they want to hear their children!

But, fwiw, I stopped monitor for Dd1 at about 18 months.
I stopped monitor for DD2 at about 3 months as we knew when she was very upset. However, I have just got it out again at 8 months for during the day at naptime when she is in her cot and I am in the garden as it is too far to hear.

[cba]

ds2 scared because ds1 tells a great scary story to him during the day, ds2 revels in adding gore to the story, resulting in him not wanting to get out of bed. Boys being boys.

What next?

[FrannyandZooey]

Ditto olive

ds knows he is not meant to get out of bed at night time

we have monitor

it is useful to me, so I have it

[oliveoil]

hahahahhaah at bow and scrape

surely you mean SHUT UP IT IS BEDTIME AND THIS IS MY TIME AND I AM VERY VERY CROSS

or is that just this house?

[oliveoil]

dd1 has never ever got out of bed. So she could cry for 2 or 3 hours without me hearing her

hmmmmmmm

anyway, I don't have to justify myself to a fish

[FluffyMummy123]

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[cba]

i was just thinking that olive.

[cba]

but the kids are left alone, would not hear them if screaming. dd who is 2 in cot, so couldnt get out unless scaled the sides of the cot. ds2 who is four, dosent like getting out of bed on his own as he gets scared. ds1 who is 6 gets out of bed and finds me.

What is weird about that?

[oliveoil]

yes, leave the door open so they get disturbed by music noise or tv

OR

shut the door and have a monitor

[FluffyMummy123]

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