stupid things THEY've said to you

[mex]

I don't like to complain. Actually, who and I kidding? I love to complain! I've got the most awful, stupid health visitor in the world. She generally leaves me in tears whenever I go to see her (so much for a health VISITOR) and the doctors have not been much better in this, my first year of being a mum. I want to know, what are the most stupid things any so-called expert has said to you about being a parent? To start the ball rolling:

1. Health Visitor (when told that baby cries 14 hours a day every day for three months): "Some babies just cry."
   
2. Doctor (after being told that baby cries for about 14 hours a day every day for three months): "She's not crying now, is she? There's nothing wrong with baby, but I think mummy might just be a bit tired."
   
   My personal favourite: I went to the doctor after the HV did an Edinburgh PND test on me and discovered that I had postnatal depression (which I'd been telling her for 8 months but she ignored) and told the doctor that I was miserable, I hated my life and I pretty much wanted to die. The doctor, a lady, said, and I quote, "Hmmm. Make sure your husband gets enough sex. If you're unhappy he's probably feeling a bit upset too." Then she held the door open for me to make sure I'd leave. ENOUGH sex? Not just some, but enough.
   
   Haven't been to a HV or Doctor since.

[akaJamiesMum]

Not all HVs are dreadful though. Mine was/is excellent. I have to confess to being a part time HV as well. I would never ever make the crass and stupid comments I've read here. Being a parent is hard enough without anyone adding to the pressure. HVs should be supporting and encouraging families not finding non-existent problems.
LoveAngel - your HV sounds utterly negligent IMO - I'd definitely have advised seeing a GP. Good for your Mum in giving her a pasting - she deserved it.

[akaJamiesMum]

Said by a colleague (childless) to a friend of mine.

Oh dear - he's falling off the centiles - are you feeding him?

Child then gets referred to GP and referred to paediatrician.
DF gets upset and worried, rings me up and comes over with her DS Red Book.

Weight - on 2nd centile
Height on 9th centile

So - entirely in proportion. Told DF to cancel paed appointment but she was too scared to. Paed then compounds problem by misreading the centile charts and reading height as on 25th centile (and put this in writing) and talking about Cystic Fibrosis. DF child has had alot of colds.

Of course it's not CF. DF is too scared to weigh her DS now so brings him round to me and I weight him - of course he is absolutely fine. DF will never trust a HV, GP or paed again though with this.

[MrsWho]

1st HV fab (and the rest of her team too!) she used to stay longer if I was upset and often made me the last appointment and would help me bath/feed dd1 when I had really bad PND.She was the one who believed me when I knew dd2 had some sort of problem and got me refferals evenwhen other said she would grow out of it (was deaf , hearing returned , speech messed up as a result)

2nd HV we got transferred to when dd2 was 3 , kept coming to visit the new baby without telling me and when I complained I would receive a letter arranging the previous appointment 2 days after my complaint she hadn't notified me
She also told me to wait til Nursery Nurse was back from long term sick to get dd2s 3yo assessment. ithem pointed out I knew more about the possible probs than the NN she grudging agreed to assess dd2 herself .(She thought possibly dd2 had some speech problems -erm Duh why did you think I had had her referred !)