Would I love another child as much as my first?

[Daiso]

Feel silly asking this, but it's always in the back of my mind.
I've got a 2yr old DS who I love immensely - so much more than I imagined. I would like DS to have a sibling but I am genuinely worried that I won't love another child as much as I do my DS.
Am I odd?!

[Daiso]

Aww how lovely Cory. Sounds like there is lots of love to go around.

[MarshaBrady]

So sweet Cory, well put! and true.

[WillSingForCake]

Oh cory, that's so lovely! I'm pregnant with DC2 and your post has put a tear in my eye!

[cory]

MarshaBrady Sun 03-Nov-13 17:29:04
"Yes you will. And even better you'll love it when they love each other."

This is so true. There is nothing better than looking at two children giggling together at a private joke, a small child being comforted by a bigger child, two teenagers snuggled up together, and thinking to yourself "I gave that love to the world".

[colditz]

An old lady told me, when I was pregnant with ds2, " They bring their own love with them."

[Primrose123]

Yes you will. You will not be able to imagine loving another child as much as your first until the second one is born. Then you realise that you love them both. :)

[lifesobeautiful]

I also felt like this - and worship the ground both my babies walk on! I think we imagine that love is finite, but it's not! You just love more and more. It's infinite! (Must remind myself of this the next time they're having a tantrum or waking up at 3am....)

[paulapantsdown]

When I fell pregnant with DS1, I was worried that I could not love a child more than I loved DH. Then when expecting DS2 I was worried that I could not love another child as much as DS1 and DH!

The love just multiplies!

Having said that, some days I can't stand the bloody site of any of them .

[Daiso]

Thanks all -I think that's a yes then
I'm glad that I'm not the only one to feel like this though. I felt guilty for even thinking it!

[colditz]

Surprisingly yes. And you won't love your first less than before either.


It's weird.

[ChanelTunel]

You'll love them both. Then one will piss you off,the next week the other one. It'll continue forever.

xx

[bellablot]

Yes of course you would.

[pumpkinsweetie]

You will have enough love for them all
I remember worrying about exactly the same thing many moons ago when pregnant with dc2, now pregnant with dc5 and i now know you have enough love in the heart for each & everyone of your children.

[VeryStressedMum]

Yes you will, don't worry.

[WillSingForCake]

I'm pregnant with DC2 and worrying about the same thing - you're all being wonderfully reassuring, thank you!!

[MarshaBrady]

Yes you will. And even better you'll love it when they love each other.

[mummyxtwo]

I had the same worry also. I couldn't imagine loving another baby as much as ds1. But then dd2 arrived and I felt the same overwhelming love for her, without loving ds1 any less. I can only describe it as your love doubles, rather than you having to divide the same amount of love between the two of them.

[Notfastmainlyfurious]

I was thinking exactly the same thing! So glad to have seen this thread. My toddler is the most amazing little person and I was worried that the sibling wouldn't be the same but feeling much reassured (and hormonal) after reading this

[Pollydon]

Yes, its like your heart grows & you have all this love to go around

[ZingWantsCake]

you are not odd.

I was wondering that when I was pg with DS2.

I had a very traumatic birth with DS1 and it took me a month to really feel that I loved him. I fell in love with him the day he first smiled at me, I really felt a connection.

naturally I was worried about a "delay" repeating itself, because it made feel really guilty and borderline depressed.

but I just fell in love with DS2 the moment he was born.
and seeing the two of them together made me fall in love with DS1 all over again!

we now have 6 and love is all around!

[AnitaBlake]

Yes, its amazing. I was scared that all DD2s achievements wouldn't be so special because DD1 had already done them, but its just as wonderful the second time round, if not more so because you are relaxed and more secure in your own parenting too.

I adore them both, in similar but different ways :) xxx

[MikeLitorisBites]

Doh!

You dont divide the love, you multiply it.

[MikeLitorisBites]

Yep. You dont divide the live. You multiply it.

[Hassled]

Yes, you will. As soon as you see him/her you'll realise it's a whole new person; it's not that you're replicating DC1 - DCs2/3/4 come with their own personalities and their own needs, and you love them all just as much.

[JollyStoutGiant]

Someone told me your love is like cake. When you have a second child you don't have to cut the cake in half. You just get a second cake