I have a lovely ds who will be turning 6 in a couple of months, he's in his first year of school. As far as I'm concerned we have a good relationship and he is very much loved by both myself and my dh. We are affectionate with him, I dedicate a lot of my time to him and he doesn't want for anything, so basically he is the light of my life :)
Anyway I am concerned by a couple of things he's said recently. A few days ago he said "If you and Daddy weren't here, if you went to heaven and I was still here, I'd be ok. I'd look after myself." It was something to the effect that he would just do what he wants to do if dh and I weren't here anymore, but strangely enough he seemed 'ok' with the idea. Then I asked him a couple of days ago whether he would miss Mummy if I wasn't here, and he said 'No'! I felt so hurt & taken aback by it. He wasn't in a bad mood or anything, it was just general conversation. I tell him every day that I love him and he always tells me he loves me too, so I really don't understand this. In every other way he seems fine and he's quite a happy, jovial child, but I don't understand how he can be so cool, calm and collected by the thought of his parents being gone permanently :(
I told my friend about it today and she feels that he should've displayed more emotion about the thought of losing his parents. She said her own son (7) became very upset once at the thought of anything happening to her. Now I'm a bit more concerned about it but don't know how to interpret what he's said or why. He's a very independent child, always has been, but I would've thought that at his age, his parents would be the centre of his universe. Can anyone give me any thoughts on this or whether their own children have seemed 'detached' about something like this before? I keep thinking about it & wondering why he feels like this :(
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Nicol06 · 22/05/2006 05:51
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