Dealing with a competitive mum their baby was the best - help

[zcos]

The mum in question makes it sound like she had the perfect baby / was the perfect mum.
According to her annecdotes that she repeats over and over and I have heard for years. Her baby slept through from 6 weeks ... Shortly after would sleep 12 hours if she wanted a lie in baby would go down at 9pm and would sleep til 9. Baby started on solids at 4 months... Crawled at 9 months and was talking and walking at a year. Not sure if all this is true but want advice on how to deal with it my baby is 7 weeks so think it may get worse as she gets older if she isn't on solids at 4 months etc ... I won't be pushing my baby just to compete.
Worse thing her baby is now 30 years old...and it's me!
So yes how do I deal with my mum who wants to advise but seemingly had the perfect baby (it must have been true I'm perfect now!) ... Help!

[rrreow]

I have selective memory 18 months later about some of those early moments, let alone what it would be like 30 years later!

[zcos]

seeing my mum on Sunday sure she will mention walking and talking then I keep trying to catch her out!

[steppemum]

op - just save it all up until you need a babysitter and then hand dc over with 'you are so goos at it, you did such a good job as a mum, that I am confident ot leave dc with you' and go out on a date with dh and turn your phone off!

[QTPie]

Well there are quite a few babies out there who do do things like that, but remember that 30 years is a loooooooong time to "soften" the memory. Your Mum will be looking back with rise tinted glasses and forgetting about the tough times (everyone has tough times!).

If it is getting much, maybe "thanks Mum, but this isn't helping right now"?

Anyway, it is better than my mum: in the hospital (when DS had just be born), she said "oh he is a lovely baby. You were a lovely baby - it was only later that you were horrible". Fortunately the second time she said it, her cousin was mindful to get her to be quiet - otherwise she would have been thrown out.

Your baby, your choices. Ask for help/advice if you want it, but don't be afraid to get more space if you need it. Parenting has moved on a lot in 30 years: some things are the same, others are quite different.