Did anyone have anxiety while pregnant and the baby be absolutely fine?

[Damash12]

Hi i'm not sure if this is the best place to post but I have been suffering from anxiety on/off throughout this pregnancy. Sometimes just teary sometimes really distraught. It could just be hormones I guess but I am now 35 weeks and as I gets closer I am really worried I could have harmed the baby in some way by worrying so much. Did anyone else suffer from a lot of crying, anxiety and everything turn out just fine?? Many thanks x

[Mumof2soontobe3katy]

Any of you ladies still on here? Would you mind sharing how things worked out after your struggles with anxiety in pregbancy and how you dear children are doing? I’m currently 19 weeks pregnant and terrified my anxiety has done ireversible damage to bay xxxx

[Letsallscreamatthesistene]

Yes! Baby was fine, im being treated for PN anxiety with CBT

[Bebeez]

Oh and COVID bullshit is defo adding to it all... I have been working from home for over 6 months. Isolation is killing me. I got pregnant when we were in covid and I will give birth in this mess....
Hubby is now back at work (initially was working from home as well) so it doesn't help to find a distraction

[Bebeez]

@MrsMarrio

I’m really sorry you feel like this. Of course your baby will be fine, try not to worry too much about it. I had very high anxiety through out my pregnancy with my son due to having a previous stillbirth and being diagnosed with ptsd. I would worry continuously be in hysterics and have panic attacks and make myself physically sick with anxiety and my bonnie 16 week old is thriving. On another note my dad had an affair on my mum when she was pregnant with me, she hardly ate, ran around ragged after her 4 other children and ended up having me 6 weeks early. And reassuringly I turned out to be a normal decent human being I think all this Covid bullshit is making us all feel a little bit crappy. Your little one will soon be here keeping you occupied x

Thank you so much! Every positive story means a world.to me now x

[MrsMarrio]

As someone said earlier, didn’t realise this was an old thread!

[MrsMarrio]

I’m really sorry you feel like this. Of course your baby will be fine, try not to worry too much about it. I had very high anxiety through out my pregnancy with my son due to having a previous stillbirth and being diagnosed with ptsd. I would worry continuously be in hysterics and have panic attacks and make myself physically sick with anxiety and my bonnie 16 week old is thriving. On another note my dad had an affair on my mum when she was pregnant with me, she hardly ate, ran around ragged after her 4 other children and ended up having me 6 weeks early. And reassuringly I turned out to be a normal decent human being I think all this Covid bullshit is making us all feel a little bit crappy. Your little one will soon be here keeping you occupied x

[BGDino]

Lost DS at 18 weeks pregnant due to cervical incompetence. 2 miscarriages to follow. DD conceived by IVF. Had cervical cerclage. Massive anxiety about whether stitch would hold. Put on bed rest at 22 weeks as uterus was pressing on stitch. More anxiety about making it to 32 weeks where she would have a good chance of a good outcome. DD born at 33 and a half weeks by EMCS in July this year. She’s been absolutely fine.

[Bebeez]

Ladies, I am 25 weeks pregnant and have been super anxious throughout my pregnancy so far. 3 weeks ago I came across some personal difficulties and I've broken competely. 2 days of super duper high stress followed by 3 weeks of crying and axiety that all these definitely affected my baby. Reading your messages helped a bit but I still can't convince myself that it will be ok.. I just can't... any advices?

[keabby]

I was quite disappointed to learn this was a zombie thread as I had hoped my experience would help OP :)

But for anyone else out there reading this I had horrid anxiety with my DD. Horrid. I thought I had done irreversible damage to her but she has turned out to be a lovely girl and healthy as can be. Take care of yourselves xx

[melissa1215]

I had it all through my pregnancy, had weird feelings of "it's all too good to be true" but it really is just good.

[Minai]

Ah zombie thread, the original baby is older than my kids well hopefully the responses will be useful for anyone else in the same situation

[Minai]

I was unbelievably anxious my whole pregnancy with ds1. I just couldn’t stop worrying about everything and constantly stressed the entire pregnancy. It was awful but ds1 is absolutely fine, happy, healthy, lovely little 2 year old. It doesn’t seem to have affected him at all. Hope this puts your mind at ease a bit.

[HayleyHaystack]

I was very anxious through my pregnancy. I just couldn’t imagine that my baby would be perfect and healthy. He was. And now I worry daily that he’s going to die. Motherhood is completely overwhelming at times!

[Jordgaleyx]

Hi everyone!
I know this is an old thread but I just wanted to say that it’s been helping me a lot to read through and know I’m not alone with awful anxiety during my pregnancy.
I’m 23 weeks currently and my anxiety is constant, worrying about the health of my baby and convincing myself I have all of the serious conditions being pregnant is associated with; gestational diabetes, cholestasis, pre-eclampsia, I am constantly googling which is possibly the worst thing to do however it has brought me to this thread which has helped me loads. The worst thing is you worry so much that you end up worrying about how much you’re worrying and how it’s affecting the baby, you just can’t win, are there any mummies/mummies-to-be out there at the minute who are feeling the same?

[Dustpan]

Hi piperlght yes I had anxiety and it didn't harm the baby.

I developed a habit of rubbing my bump slowly and talking to the baby :"Mummy is feeling anxious right now, but don't worry darling it's not your fault / you don't have to worry about it / I'm aware of it and looking after us both". I always figured if the baby could sense a rush of anxiety that I could intentionally send a reassuring calming message too.

Have you found some techniques that work for you?

[Piperlight]

28 weeks and suffer horrible anxiety and I'm worried all the time!!! I feel like my baby is going to come out harmed because of my stress. Cortisol releases and apparently causes issues! Anyone have this and their baby be ok?

[Ratata]

Sorry just realised this is an old thread...

[Ratata]

Yes I worried constantly due to previous pregnancy losses. I tried to keep my mind occupied as much as possible and kept repeating that this would be my 'take home' baby and tried to be positive. It helped a bit. It's hard not to worry I know. DS is only 14 weeks old but he's so chilled out and doesn't appear to be in any way affected from what I can tell. Good luck with your pregnancy and baby :)

[tabetharose]

Ok. Thank you

[ExBrightonBell]

Hi Tabetharose,

This thread is quite old, so I'm not sure that the original posters will still be checking it. All their advice is still valid though - it sounds like you need to be referred to a specialist midwife or similar. Perhaps your GP is the best person to begin with as they will know about your current prescription. If you are really struggling to leave the house then maybe ask if they can make a house call?

[tabetharose]

Hi. I am 6 weeks pregnant. I suffer with anxiety and is controlled with sertraline 150g. Since i found out i was pregnant i have been so bad with the anxiety. My bed is my safe place. I am self employed and have had to move my appointments as afraid to go in. Is this normal. Help......

[HRMumness]

I too was very stressed and anxious during my pregnancy but my 5 month old is asleep on me right now and she is wonderful.

I had a very stressful job plus we were renovating the bedrooms in our house (the rest is still unrenovated but liveable and we are starting more work now things have settled). We spent half of my pregnancy living in the front room downstairs, with our stuff and dust everywhere plus I was doing lots of DIY on top of my job. I remember my DH finding me bawling and he asked what was wrong, I responded with "I don't know" and bawled some more. My mum almost died when she had my elder brother as she had complications from pre-eclampsia, he was born 7 weeks early (this was in the 70s mind so preemie care isn't what it is now).

Best thing I did for myself: go on maternity quite early. I had 4 weeks holiday and 4 weeks maternity before baby arrived (we had both my MIL and Mum stay during some of that time). As soon as I finished work I found my SPD and stress levels much more manageable.

[Chottie]

Yes, I had three consecutive miscarriages and worried my way through the whole of my next pregnancy. I had two episodes of bleeding too which didn't help. Fast forward and I had a perfect, healthy, full term baby who is so chilled and laid back it is unbelievable.

Hope this helps to reassure you, good luck :)

[curryeater]

Yes. I worried constantly and cried several times a day from sheer anxiety and stress. When I was pg with dd2 that twat Oliver James came on the radio and did his crappy unhelpful spiel about maternal stress and I sobbed and sobbed. Both my dcs were born utterly relaxed, bf well at once, slept pretty well early on, and are still confident and secure. dc2 - throughout whose pregnancy I was probably worse - is the most relaxed and cheerful baby / toddler you have ever seen and people stop in shops to comment on it (sneaking in a boast there, sorry, but on the other hand I am not boasting because no way can I take credit for this, gibbering wreck that I was and sometimes am).

DON'T WORRY! impossible, I know, but still, try not to. Good luck. all will be well.

[LovesBeingAtHomeForChristmas]

Yes, my dad died from cancer and I had a mc 2 days later, I found out I was of when realizing I hadn't had a period after the mc. I found it very difficult to cope with the idea of being pg. delayed telling people till almost 20 and then ended up having an amino and well just didn't feel the same as I did when I was pg with my dd.

I knew my mw well from having dd and burst into tears telling her how I just didn't feel the same and was worried about how I was feeling. She insisted I saw the gp feeling I was depressed. I did see him but tbh I didn't want to take ad so played more on my grief than depression. But she kept an eye in me and I found confiding completely in my dh very helpful.

Anyway, ds is now 16 months and whilst I wished he would sleep more that really is the only thing I would change

You will get through this.