Squeamish dd

[WinkyWinkola]

She's been sent home from preschool three times this term because she was sick.

She says she throws up because she sees another child, ahem, picking their nose and eating it. The thought makes me retch too. She also retches when baby ds has a runny nose. I've vomited before at the sight of snot. It makes us feeble jessies, I know.

She doesn't have a bug. She always eats a meal after vomming on these occasions and is perfectly normal. Today she came home after spewing and ate a big bowl of fish pie, some choco mousse and a cup of milk. And now she happily scooting round the living room with her baby brother.

I've explained to the preschool staff that she is very squeamish about this sort of thing but they say that she has to go home regardless.

So, I asked them to make sure all the children's noses were wiped or encouraged to be blown regularly in a bid to reduce snottage. They weren't keen on that but I would have thought for 3/4 year olds, a regular blow of noses especially in winter would be a normal thing to do in loco parentis.

How the dicken's will I retain a job if dd throws up at snot and comes home all the time?

[WinkyWinkola]

Oh I know she's got to get used to it but perhaps not the picking and eating? I think she was a bit by that, precious princess!

She may have got this intolerance from me but I've never retched or thrown up in front of her and I've always tried to deal with the pouring noses briskly.

I'm trying to instill distraction techniques but she's only nearly 4 so it'll take a while.

The staff at preschool are very , mind, and are keen to send her home at the first sight of vomit. I understand why but I've tried to explain that it's really not necessarily a bug and could they talk to her about what happened and monitor her for a bit before they call me to send her home. The answer was no. Vomit is vomit and away home they go.

[SeeJaneKick]

Poor DD. I was and still am the same..so is my niece. I was somewhat flabergastd when my olde DD (6) didn't turn out the same but can laugh at disgusting things like "normal" people can....so I would refute what Lulie says completely....

I would minimize it but try to help her with coping....tell her to avoid looking...if you're talking about the being sick and what made it happen you can suggest things "When you don't like the way something looks, then look away and do something else"

Help her do distaction techniques....she's a bit young yet though...

Personally I cannot ABIDE the sound of blowing noses...I think it's disgusting and ought to be done in private.

[Lulie110]

Hmmm... Runny noses are a fact of life, she will need to get used to them, she cannot miss school because of them.

Hate to sound harsh but suspect that she has learned this reaction from you. Could you both try to overcome it?