Robins appear when loved ones are near

[Mybusyday]

What does everyone think of the saying "Robins appear when loved ones are near"? Does anyone believe this? I think I do and I always find a bit of comfort when I see a robin in my garden - whenever I am going through a tough time there seems to be a robin in the garden when I look out. The last couple of weeks have been really hard for me and I have felt a bit lost and very upset - Friday in particular was a hard day and I broke down at work in front of my manager. Since then there has been a robin in my garden pretty much every time I look out and it comes really close to the window -since Friday whenever I open the curtains in the morning it is there perched on the wall. Strangely enough a few days ago there was a little bird in the car park when I returned to my car after shopping - it was just standing by my car for about 20 minutes and was quite happy to be stood very close to me whilst I watched that it wasn't in danger from the other cars coming and going - it wasn't injured in any way and once I got in to the car it flew off. Bizarrely I have also seen 3 dead birds (separately) since Friday - I have heard that seeing dead birds can indicate a sadness in the future. I have also heard that a bird in the house can indicate a death - this one was actually true when my brother died a few years ago and I went to sort his flat out the day after and there was a dead bird in his bedroom which definitely wasn't there the day before when he had died. So I do kind of believe that birds can represent something.
I was just wondering if anyone knows if all these birds recently around me means anything or am I looking for something that isn't there?

[CiaoBe]

Confirmation bias.

If you're looking for something you'll find it.

[Hurrayforfridays]

I think if you see something that makes you smile and think of your loved one, then it's lovely to take comfort in that..

[IncompleteSenten]

I'm sorry you're having a rough time.

If the birds give you comfort then embrace it. It doesn't matter if there's anything to it or not. What matters is how it makes you feel to believe it.

[MistyBerkowitz]

@CiaoBe

Confirmation bias.

If you're looking for something you'll find it.

Yes. I’m sorry if you’re having a tough time, OP, but robins are common garden birds, and fiercely territorial, so the one you’re seeing all the time is just keeping other robins off his land. Ours is always around when I’m in the garden and often sitting on a tree outside the window.

[NeverTalksToStrangers2]

I believe it. Myself and my sister have seen robins a lot since our Dad passed. I would have noticed birds in my garden before, especially during lockdown, but never robins before he died.

[CiaoBe]

@CiaoBe

Confirmation bias.

If you're looking for something you'll find it.

But also birds are lovely and comforting so enjoy them but I really don't think they're signs.

They're just wild animals in their own environment.

[kiwiane]

I’m glad the robins give you comfort. At some level you know this is not real and the dead birds do not signify catastrophe ahead because you’ve happened to see them.
Please reach out for help - ask your GP for support too or maybe there’s some counselling services available. Ai hope you feel better soon.

[LenaLamont]

I’ve never heard that.

It’s nonsense, obviously, but if it’s comforting nonsense, embrace it.

I have little superstitions I know are absolute bobbins really, but if they ease a difficult moment where’s the harm? That star isn’t my mum, even if I do mentally talk to it like it is. The dragonfly isn’t delivering hope, it’s just being its insect self. A feather doesn’t mean anyone’s looking out for me, it means a bird is moulting.

But so what? Humans are storytellers. Is we tell ourselves things to bring comfort or hope, we’re just doing what people do.

[Lemonyfuckit]

Sorry you're having a tough time OP, sending you hugs and hope things improve soon.

Whilst I don't 'actually' really really and truly believe it, I've also heard that saying, and I see a Robin a lot in our garden and so like to think it's a sign from / is my late DF or DH's late DF, because I find it a comforting thought. So I say crack on with thinking that if you find it comforting and like a bit of support from a loved one at a difficult time. But perhaps less so with the thinking there'll be a death re the dead bird (yes I fully admit I'm freely picking and choosing my superstitions/old wives tales/country folklore to suit my narrative but why not?!).

[SallyWD]

If it brings you comfort then absolutely believe it. Anything that helps people endure difficult times is a good thing, in my opinion.

I personally don't believe it. I have robins in my garden almost every day. However, maybe if I'd just lost my mum or something, I'd want to believe it.

[Friend2023]

My partner grew up with his parents owning caravans (on a site) all of his childhood they would go to the caravan every weekend and school holiday. It was their life so he had always said that he wanted his own one day.

So he came into some money and was able to buy one for himself. We went to look at one and bought it , his Mum wasn't happy about it and said it was a waste of money when he called her on the way back home.

So we were standing at the train station waiting for the train home and I looked over and saw a Robin just standing next to us in the shelter on the platform ... I said to him "that's your Dad" !!
My partner didn't get on with his Dad and they weren't talking when he passed away but I said to him "he would be happy you've done that today. Coz caravans were his life and now you've done something with your money to follow that on.. "
It's always made me think.

[TheFlis]

I’m not particularly woo or superstitious but I have had a few very weird incidents with Robins since my Dad died. Too outing to describe as a few people IRL know about them but essentially they have appeared in situations or acted in ways you really wouldn’t expect, around times or places closely related to Dad. It’s odd but definitely comforting.

[Screamingabdabz]

Robins are such a cliche that me and my DH always say cheerfully ‘oh look it’s Bob’ to indicate that my beloved late father Bob is visiting (he died last year). We always say it ironically in the style of Peter Kay but it’s become such a regular occurrence that’s it’s morphed into something quite warm and comforting now. We know it’s just a common garden robin but it’s become such a nice association with my dad.

[Fizzadora]

Odd isn't it. I am not a bit superstitious but a cheeky robin took to visiting my patio for a couple of weeks after my lovely FIL died. Not seen it before or since and I am in he garden a lot so definitely would have seen it.

[Fizbosshoes]

My late relative loved Robins and always used to update us how many Xmas cards they had had with Robins on them. After they died, the first time we went to clear out their house, a Robin came in the house and it was really lovely

[Peridot1]

I’m not particularly superstitious (although I don’t like seeing just one magpie!) but I do find seeing robins comforting.

I see one in our garden pretty often. One tends to perch on the base of the parasol just outside the patio doors or on the edge of a plant pot by the same door or in the outdoor table on the patio. All places I can see from where I spend most of my time. It makes me think of my parents. I find it comforting.

[DianaTaverner]

I'd never heard this before. There are over 10 million robins in the UK, but I guess enough humans have been bereaved to keep them busy.

I'm glad you find it comforting OP, and hope you have happier times ahead.

[MonsieurSpade]

My dsil sees feathers as signs from the in laws.
Strangely my dh never sees feathers or doesn’t comment anyway.

[Mybusyday]

@Lemonyfuckit

Sorry you're having a tough time OP, sending you hugs and hope things improve soon.

Whilst I don't 'actually' really really and truly believe it, I've also heard that saying, and I see a Robin a lot in our garden and so like to think it's a sign from / is my late DF or DH's late DF, because I find it a comforting thought. So I say crack on with thinking that if you find it comforting and like a bit of support from a loved one at a difficult time. But perhaps less so with the thinking there'll be a death re the dead bird (yes I fully admit I'm freely picking and choosing my superstitions/old wives tales/country folklore to suit my narrative but why not?!).

Than you xx

[Mybusyday]

@Friend2023

My partner grew up with his parents owning caravans (on a site) all of his childhood they would go to the caravan every weekend and school holiday. It was their life so he had always said that he wanted his own one day.

So he came into some money and was able to buy one for himself. We went to look at one and bought it , his Mum wasn't happy about it and said it was a waste of money when he called her on the way back home.

So we were standing at the train station waiting for the train home and I looked over and saw a Robin just standing next to us in the shelter on the platform ... I said to him "that's your Dad" !!
My partner didn't get on with his Dad and they weren't talking when he passed away but I said to him "he would be happy you've done that today. Coz caravans were his life and now you've done something with your money to follow that on.. "
It's always made me think.

Edited

Ah that's lovely! 🙂

[Mybusyday]

@TheFlis

I’m not particularly woo or superstitious but I have had a few very weird incidents with Robins since my Dad died. Too outing to describe as a few people IRL know about them but essentially they have appeared in situations or acted in ways you really wouldn’t expect, around times or places closely related to Dad. It’s odd but definitely comforting.

Edited

I'm sorry for your loss - I hope you find comfort with your robin friends

[Mybusyday]

@Fizzadora

Odd isn't it. I am not a bit superstitious but a cheeky robin took to visiting my patio for a couple of weeks after my lovely FIL died. Not seen it before or since and I am in he garden a lot so definitely would have seen it.

Yes it is a little odd but lovely to see

[IndecentPropolis]

To people who believe in this:

So is it that you think loved ones are reincarnated as robins? If so is it one particular Robin or a selection?

Or the deceased loved ones tell the robins to turn up in certain locations?

How does it all work?

[Mybusyday]

@DianaTaverner

I'd never heard this before. There are over 10 million robins in the UK, but I guess enough humans have been bereaved to keep them busy.

I'm glad you find it comforting OP, and hope you have happier times ahead.

Thank you xx

[feemcgee]

I've heard this before and yes, it's superstition, but seeing a robin also gives me comfort and puts a smile on my face - they make me think of my ddad. Anything that gives you happiness during a hard time has to be a good thing. I hope that you feel better soon, and keep believing in the robins. ❤