Does anyone else smash things when cross

[almostanotherday]

As it says really, does anyone else throw or smash things when cross?

[BillyDaveysDaughter]

Nope, never. I just don't have it in me - I had a temper as a child, but my mother swiftly trained it out of me...so now all my anger is neatly bottled up inside. And will inevitably blow one day.

In the meantime however, my dh has a terrible temper and has smashed up countless household items which have been uncooperative in some way. His breakage rules are only that he never hurts anyone.

[Efi85]

OMG! it sounds like you have a spark inside you! It's something that you don't hear it every day so i will say dont feel bad about it. Neither stupid that you had to buy all these things again. They are just things.
Though i am so surprised how you smashed everything in sight.
I would be curious to hear more about this story if its okay.

[MercedesKing]

Oh, have to admit that it happens to me all the time, almost all the ceramic out on table or somewhere that is easy to be touched would be an item for me to smash by accident so that I have to be careful when walking through a crowed passage.

[Titchyboomboom]

I threw a remote control once, when I was about 18, but it was not healthy. DH made me realise how destructive and aggressive it was

[MannishBoy]

My ex used to smash stuff. But then she also used to hit me and belittle me, so maybe not the best comparison.

[RememberingMyPFEs]

I certainly have the urge and am a world-class door-slammer. Always makes me feel better but I always feel bad when I see the paint flakes
Running certainly helps and is a far better outlet!!
I have pregna-rage hormones now making things worse (plus no running) and so I have agreement that I will hurl only plastic glasses in the kitchen floor when alone. Seems to work for me but once isn't enough.

Is it childish? I dunno but better out than in, right?!?

[iklboo]

Tonight I am in my fantasy room hurling cups, plates, saucers - damnit even serving platters down the length of it.

[Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme]

You're welcome almost.

[pixi2]

Oooooo, no. If it did I would still have my lovely blue baking bowl.
I picked it up off the floor and kept throwing it till it was in pieces.

I tend to have butterfingers these days through tiredness rather than rage. I have broken all my lovely royal doulton dinner set and refuse to buy any others so will need to buy another set soon.

[Jellykat]

That's a helluva coincidence almost, i must say a punchbag helped here, plus as we live rurally.. a drumkit!
I'm wondering if there's an outlet you can think of for your DS, something immediately there to take it out on? Punching it out on a beanbag or something..
I know DS is getting better as time goes by, although whacking the floor of his room while im sitting in the room below, makes me jump a mile!

[almostanotherday]

Ilovemydog-your made me laugh sorry

[almostanotherday]

Jellycat-they have ? him for dyspraxia and we got the ADD diagnosed last year. Your DS has described it exactly how mine does, angry but can't explain why.

[Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme]

Does breaking stubborn inanimate objects count? Like when something doesn't work or won't fit or refuses to play by the rules and in a fit of piqué you thump/kick/hurl it and it breaks. And you're suddenly aware how stupid and childish your temper is and now you've broken something and you feel really stupid and fucked off wit yourself.

dishwasher cupboard door router dc's plate car door keyboard wicker basket oh god the list goes on help me

[Jellykat]

almost Your DS is not alone. My only just 15 year old DS2 smashes things. He's been doing it for well over a year, but 3 phones and one laptop later, hes learning to channel it into thumping the carpeted floor (plus i bought him a punchbag!)

While he does have Dyspraxia and borderline ADD, i honestly think its hormonal surges as much as anything. He says he feels really really angry and frustrated sometimes, but not for any particular reason, and he can't stop it.

I must just add no other members of the family throw anything, but hes a big lad and much more physical then his elder brother ever was.

[digerd]

No, never. None of my family either. Except our Grandad, who was old, and only when we played cards and he lost. He threw the cards down and across the table. We used to chuckle to ourselves. He also threw verbal abuse at the telly, but never solid objects .

[FrameyMcFrame]

I threw my phone at the computer and broke the screen of the computer. PMS
Felt pretty stupid immediately afterwards when I realised I'd broken the laptop

[iklboo]

No but I have a fantasy room that is long and narrow & filled with boxes of cheap crockery. I picture flinging the crockery down the length of the room, which is self cleaning.

[BertieBotts]

I don't know for sure but I think it's fairly common in teenage boys, most of my male peers hit something in anger at least once during their teenage years.

You might be best off asking in Teens or the Special Needs section if you're wanting to gauge what's normal?

[EnjoyResponsibly]

In a hissy fit 3 years ago I slammed my I-phone down on the granite kitchen worktop.

That was an expensive tantrum.

[EnjoyResponsibly]

Pix is it not the case that by the time you've got yourself into a place in accordance with your rules, the urge to throw has passed

[pixi2]

Please feel free to borrow my breakage rules;

It has to be your own item
There can be no witnesses
You do not hurt anyone

Damage limitation.

[bigTillyMint]

I mean I shout a lot when I am really angry, not all the time

[bigTillyMint]

No. But I shout A LOT!

My DM once threw a glass at me. Luckily it hit the bathroom door as I slammed it shut. I was a teenager and was probably being vile.

I slammed the porch door when I was a teenager and the glass smashed out of it,

[almostanotherday]

I once threw a cup of tea at my x and then cried my eyes out after realising I had got tea all up the wall of my newly painted kitchen.

I was asking as my DS14 does and then gets really upset he has ADD so I'm not sure if the out bursts are linked to the ADD or not and he was not born when I was with my x so never witnessed the cup of tea incident.

[LynetteScavo]

I threw a plate once.

Everybody was being hideous at the dinner table, I picked up my empty plate and threw it into the kitchen. I then walked out of the house, and bought a bottle of

When I got back, DH had cleared up the plate and said "That's not your usual style. "

The wine went very well with the spaghetti bolognese.

It was never mentioned again.