So I got a phone call from my lb nursery today at 3pm they rang to say he has had a 10 minute nap since arriving at 7.30am and won't go back to sleep/nap and is super clingy and upset and they are lost as to what to do. I suggested what I usually do to which they stated they have already tried this and nothing is working and asked me to come pick him up, is this normal?
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EasyPeelersAreNotTheOnlyFruit · 05/03/2024 19:48
How old is he? I'd expect them to be able to cope with this, tbh, but equally I wouldn't want him really distressed for ages.
TheOccupier · 05/03/2024 19:47
I'd be unimpressed. Did you go and get him? Is he new at that nursery?
Thehonestbadger · 05/03/2024 19:50
So this is the type of situation where they are requesting you get him for his best interests as he’s clearly ‘not himself’ but ultimately you’re able to say no.
He's not in breach of any of there policies ‘temperature, upset tummy…etc’ so he doesn’t HAVE to be collected they just don’t think he’s going to settle staying.
It comes down to whether you think they actually have tried everything and tried hard. You have to remember with nursery you aren’t paying for 1:1 care so they have to be ‘manageable’ alongside other kids.
supercalafragilisticexpealidocious · 05/03/2024 19:55
Reading between the lines it's because he is distressed and couldn't be calmed so needed picking up. Most nurseries assume the parent will want to collect a child if they are miserable and can't be calmed down. That's what I would want, particularly for a ten month old baby.
LordSnot · 05/03/2024 19:56
How was he when you picked him up and how has he been this evening?
supercalafragilisticexpealidocious · 05/03/2024 19:55
Reading between the lines it's because he is distressed and couldn't be calmed so needed picking up. Most nurseries assume the parent will want to collect a child if they are miserable and can't be calmed down. That's what I would want, particularly for a ten month old baby.
solarised · 05/03/2024 19:59
They are ringing you as your child is upset and won't settle for them. Your child hasn't slept since 7:30-3pm. They've clearly been trying to console him. The ball is then in your court. Do you want your child to potentially remain upset or do you want to go and get them.
EarringsandLipstick · 05/03/2024 20:08
What are you surprised about? Your baby is unhappy, they've done their best to settle him, then they let you know.
I'm sure they'd be fine if you weren't able to come, they are just letting you know.
Yellowpopit · 05/03/2024 20:08
If actually be impressed with this as it shows they are responsive and didn’t want to just leave him to be distressed after trying everything. They are professionals so must know when a baby has just had enough and knew they had tried everything
TastyTakoyaki · 05/03/2024 20:17
I’m afraid as a childminder, if I had a child who hadn’t napped and had potentially been upset most the day, I would call.
Is it just tiredness or does your DS need more time to settle in?
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Kc1111 · 05/03/2024 20:10
Yes I get the reason they are ringing me and I understand their reasonings just never heard of that happening before. He had napped just not for very long and wouldn't resettle. He was collected but I didn't feel I had an option to collect him or wait it out just that I had to come and get him unfortunately it's difficult for me to just get up and leave due to my work I have to find cover before I can leave if that makes sense
solarised · 05/03/2024 19:59
They are ringing you as your child is upset and won't settle for them. Your child hasn't slept since 7:30-3pm. They've clearly been trying to console him. The ball is then in your court. Do you want your child to potentially remain upset or do you want to go and get them.
supercalafragilisticexpealidocious · 05/03/2024 19:55
Reading between the lines it's because he is distressed and couldn't be calmed so needed picking up. Most nurseries assume the parent will want to collect a child if they are miserable and can't be calmed down. That's what I would want, particularly for a ten month old baby.
solarised · 05/03/2024 20:33
Ah right. Maybe they thought it was cruel to leave him any longer so phoned?
Kc1111 · 05/03/2024 20:10
Yes I get the reason they are ringing me and I understand their reasonings just never heard of that happening before. He had napped just not for very long and wouldn't resettle. He was collected but I didn't feel I had an option to collect him or wait it out just that I had to come and get him unfortunately it's difficult for me to just get up and leave due to my work I have to find cover before I can leave if that makes sense
solarised · 05/03/2024 19:59
They are ringing you as your child is upset and won't settle for them. Your child hasn't slept since 7:30-3pm. They've clearly been trying to console him. The ball is then in your court. Do you want your child to potentially remain upset or do you want to go and get them.
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