I'm 38, married with two wonderful children. We generally have a nice life, for which I am grateful (nice but modest home in a good neighborhood , no debt , little cushion of savings etc) . However,right now I am feeling so lost and alone.
Our eldest child has autism and learning disabilities, in a specialist school. I'm a SAHM/carer. I'm currently unable to work in an official capacity as I'm waiting for tests for chronic illness (exhaustion and pain are my main symptoms but have a whole host of them) and we don't have much family around to help with the kids.
I'm naturally very introverted and have never needed a lot of friends. However, due to the above, pretty much all of my friendships fell away during COVID. None of them could really understand what I was dealing with, added into lockdowns and life being tough for everyone, that friends just drifted away. I've tried a couple of times to instigate communication again but lives have moved on.
I have limited contact with my mother. She is just not a nice person and parts of my childhood was absolute hell. I've had two lots of counselling over it and my brother also barely speaks to her.
I've tried making friends with the other parents at my other DCs school but nothing has happened beyond basic chit chat (or they use me as Sounding board but nothing more). I get on better with my eldest child's class parents (all SEN parents) but most of the kids have transport so we rarely see each other.
I don't need a huge host of Friends but I honestly have no one. I have never felt so lost and alone.
I'm not usually one to wallow and very much get on with it, but lately I've had a massive slump.
I can't even volunteer because of ill health. My hobbies are solitary. I'd absolutely love to join a walking group but I can't because it causes my symptoms to flare. Added to that, being an ALN parent can be so isolating.
My husband is lovely and I'm lucky to have him. But I'd love a couple of friends or sense of community but not sure how to go about it, especially with our circumstances. Autistic child primarily wants me right now too, so I can't even attend groups in the evening and weekends are usually family time.
Lockdown was quite a dark time but I muddled through because I had no choice. Now we're on the other side of things, I'm not at a place in my life where I feel stuck and lost.
Anyone else feeling similar? Or have any suggestions?
Thank you if you've read these self pitying ramblings ,🙂
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Feeling so lost and alone, and not sure where to go from here. Anyone else?
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Stuckinarut234 · 26/03/2024 13:26
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