I need to make a decision ASAP on whether to return to medicine. I've had nearly 1.5 years out between a difficult pregnancy and staying at home with my baby, and before that I was locumming fairly part time. I've missed very little about the job but have suddenly got cold feet about finalising not returning (I have a training programme in place that I have not yet started). Returning less than full time to give it a go isn't an option as the training programme is not where I currently live and would require a house move (away from our support circle...), sorting of childcare and probably some job changes for DH, so I don't want to do it unless I really am committed to it. I don't think returning is in my baby's (or DH's) best interests but I'm suddenly very anxious about properly closing the door on medicine and having nothing else waiting for me. The plan currently is to remain a SAHM whilst we finish having our children and then possibly retrain. I'm having a massive wobble and feel generally quite low in confidence. Medicine has been my identity for a long time (even though I haven't actually worked in it that long...) and most of my friends are medics. I've never had time for hobbies around it and don't know how to describe myself to people I meet if not as a doctor. A lot of our friends are very career driven and I feel very self-conscious when they are around. But ... my day to day life is lovely, I adore motherhood, my little one is thriving as is my relationship with DH. We are all sane, the house is clean and I get enormous enjoyment from 'the small things'. We travel a lot and I can't remember the last time I felt properly stressed. Conversely, when I was a doctor, I can't remember ever truly feeling relaxed as I was constantly worried about work, exams, portfolio etc. I don't want to spend my little one's childhood feeling like that. None of my medic friends are close to having children so I have no one to talk to about it. Can anyone who has been through similar advise?
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Has anyone left medicine (or a similarly 'intense' career) to be a SAHM?
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lilacbluegreen · 24/03/2024 18:07
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