Stuck in a rut

[TeresaMayspants]

Dear wise Mumsnetters, I feel like I’m incapable of happiness I’m not depressed I don’t think but I struggle to care about things. I struggle socially which has gotten worse in recent years. People I classed as friends have fallen away I think truthfully because I’m a really dull boring person. On paper things are good I work, am married and have two small children but I don’t really have any friends or hobbies.
I don’t really have an identity I don’t know who I am. I spend lots of time doing nothing on my phone. My house is a complete mess and I’m a complete mess if I’m honest. I’m unkempt in the sense that I shower but I don’t care about my clothes or my appearance and I’m really overweight.
I want to do better but I don’t even know where to begin. It all so feels so completely overwhelming. I feel like I’m not a functional human being and I want to change now before I’m too set in my ways. I just want to find some happiness and joy.

[FlippingFishes24]

Do u feel over whelmed? A house, working, being a wife and mummy can be full on and we can lose our self over time. Try and find something small that u like to do or enjoy. What does your husband think? If your worried u can speak to your Gp.

[stayathomer]

could you do one of those things where you grade each thing and see what you want the most? Is there a part of your house that irritates you the most eg I started the biggest clean out on the hot press after about 6 months of letting it fall apart. You could start somewhere tiny! As for hobbies, just sit down and think of all the options- reading, writing, crafts, sports, collecting etc.

best of luck op, try not to think of this as huge, instead try and enjoy x

[TeresaMayspants]

Thank you both for replying. I do feel overwhelmed and unsupported in a lot of ways. I’m not particularly worried I wouldn’t really know how to address it with a Gp. I don’t think they can assist with me being a bit shit.

I think grading areas is an idea as a starter but to be honest everything’s just mediocre nothings terrible and nothings good

[canwebuildasnowman]

You could be talking about me OP.
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