Anyone emigrated and came back? Or not happy?

[2024withapositivestep]

Partner very strongly wanting to emigrate to Australia we have 2 kids and a dog. He has previously lived there for a few years and would be easy for him to get work/visa/sponsor etc.

I think mainly for him he sees it as it's the weather here it's getting him and us down, however of course we do have family and that's my main reason for not wanting to! I'd feel so guilty for leaving my mum and taking the kids away from her. However he is very much of the stance of we need to think about us and our children and giving them a better life!

[2024withapositivestep]

Anyway posted before finished haha can you tell me some bad stories haha

[Zebrasinpyjamas]

I've did 3 years in that region. I had really nice life and the better weather did hugely help. However you can only emigrate if you both really want to as it's hard. Even a year in , there are days when I just wanted to be with people who I had shared history with.

Also my cost of living there was higher than in the UK. I had a good job and would have struggled to pay for a set of family flights back to the UK more often than every few years

[SwimmingIntoSpring]

It really depends on what’s important to your way of life. My brother lived there for 7years had and got duel citizenship but has been happy living in UK again for last 9years. His partner is an ozzie so there’s family in both countries. The weather is hotter and drier but equally that brings some more extreme weather they had awful thunderstorms and weeks of hot weather that you had to to just hid in AC all the time. We went out for a few weeks on a long holiday with our then toddler but decided we preferred on balance our life here in UK, we had shorter commutes, access to Europe and a more stable climate for the outdoor things we enjoy here. My brother met a few Ex-pats who flip flopped back n forth as it’s not all sunshine and bbqs. If you have the chance go for 5years maybe to really see if it suits you.

[Riverlee]

My relative to Australia in her. Early twenties with her husband. They came back ten years later.

The husbands parents also went out but came back because they couldn’t afford to live out there.

[Saschka]

We went to Canada for two years - but we were always only planning two years, and kept our house etc.

It was my family we came back for, DH would happily have stayed and our quality of life was significantly better there.

[NewbieParentMango]

I moved to Oz - would never look back but there is a dedicated fb page just for this.

It is called 'ping pong Poms'
lots of stories on there of back and forth!

[alwayscrashinginthesamecar1]

I moved to Oz and would never go back, but there are plenty that do. Although I only know one family that went back to the UK and they realised almost straight away they had made a terrible mistake. They came back to Oz, it cost them a fortune to ping pong but I guess it was something they had to do.

[RubyRoseViolet]

I've got a cousin who recently returned after 4 years in New Zealand. She had her son there but then she and her husband wanted to be closer to family so they came home. I've got several friends who went to live in Australia and came back a few years later. They didn't regret trying it, it just wasn't for them long term.

[rickyrickygrimes]

@RubyRoseViolet

I've got a cousin who recently returned after 4 years in New Zealand. She had her son there but then she and her husband wanted to be closer to family so they came home. I've got several friends who went to live in Australia and came back a few years later. They didn't regret trying it, it just wasn't for them long term.

I don’t think I am your cousin @RubyRoseViolet as we came back 16 years ago 😂 but it’s the same story. Went to NZ with DH, stayed for 4/5 years, had our first baby then came back to ‘this’ side within 6 months. I just couldn’t keep my kids that far from their families. No ‘lifestyle’ reasons could trump that for me. My sister doesn’t have children, so my two are the only grandchildren for my parents and their relationship is very strong.

we didn’t come back to the UK though, we live in France which is close enough for plenty of visits, without being back in the crappy uk weather.

my two cousins moved to Australia about 15 years ago, the female one taking her two children with her. They are my aunts only two grandchildren and frankly it broke her heart. My uncle is severely disabled now, and my aunt is also quite unwell - and both their children are on the other side of the world. My female cousin has never visited in 15 years (too expensive). They don’t / can’t help in any way, and they are struggling: my parents have stepped in (in their late 70s) to be their main support. It’s not how my aunt ever imagined her life would turn out.

[AvengedQuince]

We emigrated as children with our parents, and now, as adults, my siblings and I have all moved back and have our own children. My parents are in Australia.

[ForestBather]

@rickyrickygrimes

I don’t think I am your cousin @RubyRoseViolet as we came back 16 years ago 😂 but it’s the same story. Went to NZ with DH, stayed for 4/5 years, had our first baby then came back to ‘this’ side within 6 months. I just couldn’t keep my kids that far from their families. No ‘lifestyle’ reasons could trump that for me. My sister doesn’t have children, so my two are the only grandchildren for my parents and their relationship is very strong.

we didn’t come back to the UK though, we live in France which is close enough for plenty of visits, without being back in the crappy uk weather.

my two cousins moved to Australia about 15 years ago, the female one taking her two children with her. They are my aunts only two grandchildren and frankly it broke her heart. My uncle is severely disabled now, and my aunt is also quite unwell - and both their children are on the other side of the world. My female cousin has never visited in 15 years (too expensive). They don’t / can’t help in any way, and they are struggling: my parents have stepped in (in their late 70s) to be their main support. It’s not how my aunt ever imagined her life would turn out.

That is sad for your aunt but I'm sure she wants what is best for her children's lives. I have a family member in a similar position but they know that their child made the best choice for their family and so support that.