I've posted before, a few times, so my story may be familiar.
It's a long one, so in a nutshell (this will still be long as I don't want to drip feed):
2016 I was rped by a senior member of staff at a staff party, free booze provided as always. I told two close friends what had happened but mainly just buried it as I needed my job as a newly single mother.
2020 I broke down and went off sick. I found a new job and planned my quiet exit.
Lockdown happened just before starting my new job, forcing me to stay in job working with rpist. I reported him to management and he eventually left the company.
I returned to work after being off sick, we were all still WFH due to lockdown. I was able to go from part time to full time because of this.
Two years ago I had a baby. This job offers great flexibility and I am still able to work full time hours because I am WFH.
2022 it was announced that we should all return to the office. I fought for reasonable adjustments as I didn't feel I could return to the office. I have PTSD and don't feel safe returning to the place where it all happened, or to see the colleagues that were there the night it happened. (As well as a friend of mine had been murdered in Jan 2022 by her perpetrator and I am petrified he will come and find me). I eventually won after months and months of fighting and now I permanently WFH.
I am really struggling. Every single day I work, I am triggered. Even though he has left the company, his name often comes up. When I get emails from or see certain people, I am brought back and my PTSD symptoms flare up. Parts of my duties remind me.of him. For my sanity and mental health I need to leave.
I have been signed off by my GP for now.
I know I need to leave and I can't wait to see the back of them, but...I am petrified. This job is all I've known for the past 12 years. My confidence in finding a new office job is on the floor. Meeting new people, learning new systems. Going to interviews. I will have to go part time and I don't know how we will manage financially. I feel so, so stuck.
I have started to launch my own business but it's slow and a lot of work, which at the moment I don't feel well enough to plough through.
The only way I can think of being able to leave and be financially stable until I am well enough to find a job is if I get paid out. But I don't even know if this is a reasonable thing to consider. I never did report to the police as I just can't go through the process. I have reported to crimestoppers though.
I just don't know what to do ☹️
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Righteousgemstones · 12/03/2024 06:08
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12/03/2024 07:22
NCA24 · 12/03/2024 07:06
I would pursue it. I think the company is at fault for providing alcohol and not taking due diligence on behalf of its staff members. I would try and get compensation. How long have you worked there?
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