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Live webchat with Cristina Odone (Friday 23 Oct), 1-2pm

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HelenMumsnet · 22/10/2009 13:10

We're delighted to announce that Cristina Odone is joining us for a webchat tomorrow lunchtime (Friday 23 Oct, 1-2pm).

Cristina has just written a paper for the Centre for Policy Studies (Tory thinktank) called What Women Want.. And How They Can Get It. In it, she argues that the Government needs to stop encouraging women/mothers back to full-time work because most of us don't want to commit to a full-time job.

In her conclusion, she says: "... we need to break the stranglehold that a small coterie of women who work fulltime and buy into the macho way of life, enjoy on our public life. They have, for years, misrepresented real women who reject the masculine value system for one that rates caring above a career, and inter-dependence above independence."

Some of you have already been discussing her views on this thread and you can download the full paper here.

Cristina is a writer, broadcaster and journalist - she was editor of the Catholic Herald and deputy editor of the New Statesman - and a mother.

If you can't join us tomorrow for the chat, please post your advance questions here.

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Penthesileia · 23/10/2009 13:58

What morningpaper said.

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CristinaOdone · 23/10/2009 13:58

LeninGhoul as things stand if you go out to work and your DP stays at home to care for kids, the only way he gets money from the state is if he claims unemployment benefits...

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LeninGhoul · 23/10/2009 13:59

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InmyheadIminParis · 23/10/2009 14:01

It's been interesting. Thanks for coming!

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LeninGhoul · 23/10/2009 14:01

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Penthesileia · 23/10/2009 14:01

Besides, apart from the chattering classes bigging-up women in work, couldn't we rather see the government's efforts the other way round, ie. that they are trying to address the difficulty women have in entering the workplace. Their actions are not targeted - as the rhetoric of your report sometimes suggests - at disadvantaging or diminishing SAHPs, etc., but rather at trying to redress centuries of sexism in the workplace. Quite a different matter.

If, on the other hand, the report had focussed more on why the roles men take in society make it impossible for women to get what they want (rather than "The Government"), then I might've agreed more.

If more men agitated for flexible working, etc., and volunteered to take care of their children, etc. then the discussion would look very different, I think.

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morningpaper · 23/10/2009 14:01

Can't she just put some cheap vinyl down and stay here a bit longer?

This has been fun - Cristina thanks very much, I'm sure we'll keep an eye out for your work in the future.

(And, you know, being received into the Anglican church isn't settling for second-best, seriously, it's really just a more merciful place. Promise. x)

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LeninGhoul · 23/10/2009 14:02

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morningpaper · 23/10/2009 14:02

I very much doubt our nation is overflowing with women desperate to work and look after each other's kids.

you are right about that!

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CristinaOdone · 23/10/2009 14:03

Cheap vinyl may well be the answer! I really enjoyed this.... thank you ! (...off to gargle)

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Penthesileia · 23/10/2009 14:04

Ciao ciao. Good luck with the flooring!

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CristinaOdone · 23/10/2009 14:05
Smile
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Northernlurker · 23/10/2009 14:07

Well that was fun - so glad that today was the day I had holiday booked from my rewarding job to look after my rewarding children

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LeninGhoul · 23/10/2009 14:07

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Penthesileia · 23/10/2009 14:12

The "problem" with transferring tax allowance to the working partner is that it is - in some respects - unfair on those couples who choose - or are forced - both to work.

Imagine if, in your workplace, you were paying less tax because your DP chose/was able not to work in order to look after your kids; while another person in your workplace pays more tax than you because their partner chooses/has to work.

In fact, talking about tax allowance at all is really only meaningful if you're paying tax. Which the partner not working isn't.

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LeninGhoul · 23/10/2009 14:15

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Penthesileia · 23/10/2009 14:20

Yes, some people benefit from childcare vouchers (though not all, of course). And that's the nub of it.

If childcare vouchers (soon to be a thing of the past anyway) were compulsory across the board, then yes, it would make sense to offer the same tax relief (ie. on £486 per month) to the working partner of a SAHP.

But childcare vouchers are/were sadly not universal.

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Penthesileia · 23/10/2009 14:25

Qu - Lenin... Assuming you work in a place which offers vouchers, presumably you are still able to claim them, even if your DP is a SAHM?

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OrmIrian · 23/10/2009 14:39

Dammit! Missed her !

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LeninGhoul · 23/10/2009 14:55

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ProfessorLaytonIsMyZombieSlave · 23/10/2009 15:20

No, you wouldn't be. If your DP registered, and you had another SAHP friend who registered, and you swapped and looked after each other's children, then you'd be eligible. But not for looking after your own.

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Shanster · 23/10/2009 17:35

fab post morning paper

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SorciereAnna · 23/10/2009 17:56

Penthesileia - you raise a good point about tax allowances and the "unfairness" to couples where both adults work. Here in France just that problem arises: married couples are taxed jointly and the marginal income generated by second earners is severely eroded by the fact that they have no new allowances to offset against taxation on their second income - and they are taxed at their partner's marginal rate. I know many high-earning women here whose take-home salary barely covers their work outgoings (clothing and domestic help) while their employers are actually paying out a great deal of money to employ them, thereby creating a huge mismatch between what employers feel entitled to demand of employees and what employees feel they need to contribute.

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VulpusinaWilfsuit · 23/10/2009 19:42

Good grief. I have just scanned the actual report, and will read it more fully at some point. Never has the research in my neck of the woods been so woefully misrepresented.

And the awful irony of the report is that there is some mileage in the basic idea that supporting women's need to care for their families properly is a good thing. But the extrapolation here is a farce.

And what MP said about the poor questioning.

And a woeful misinterpretation of what Giddens is saying.

And deluded that Human Ecology is the same as Sociology.

And she implicates MN, suggesting 'we' (with Alphamummy) have a position that defines SAHMs as 'smug': did you notice?

And a whole load of other nonsense. God, I can't even be bothered with it...

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blueshoes · 24/10/2009 21:57

Missed her too!

Everything morningpaper said, except on anglo-catholicism of which I hold no views.

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