My feed
Premium

Please
or
to access all these features

WEBCHAT GUIDELINES: 1. One question per member plus one follow-up. 2. Keep your question brief. 3. Don't moan if your question doesn't get answered. 4. Do be civil/polite. 5. If one topic or question threatens to overwhelm the webchat, MNHQ will usually ask for people to stop repeating the same question or point.

MNHQ have commented on this thread

Mumsnet webchats

"At the heart of my activism is the need to give voice to millions of silenced women”

85 replies

MumsnetGuestPosts · 21/06/2018 17:16

My name is Masih Alinejad. I’m a journalist, human rights activist, and a women's rights warrior. I’m also a troublemaker, all because I started to say the word ‘no’.

Saying ‘no’ is not easy for women, and especially in the place where I grew up. Born in a small village in Northern Iran called Ghomikola, I had a simple childhood with two conservative parents, surrounded by brothers who enjoyed more freedom and greater privilege.

My inquisitiveness about why life as a girl had to be different started at a young age. Like children everywhere, growing up was riddled with small acts of defiance - with one small difference. Without knowing it, I was challenging the notions of what it meant to be a girl in the Islamic Republic. This brought shame to my family time and again - when I was expelled from high school for asking questions about the political system, for instance, and when I complained about the compulsory hijab.

Another source of embarrassment (which probably contributed to my expulsion) came when I was chosen by my high school to become a Quran reciter. As I mention in my book, this opportunity imbued my parents with pride. That day, I sat cross-legged on a futon on the stage, looking out at the students and teachers, and started reading a verse from the Quran. But I was a voracious reader of poetry, and my mind instinctively wanted to venture into reading a forbidden poem. It was written by Shamloo - one of Iran’s censored poets. So, I started reciting: “They smell your mouth, lest you've said I love you; they smell your heart. These are strange times my dear.” To my utter surprise, the students were whistling in delight. But delving into the ‘forbidden’ displeased the teachers, who hurried forwards and dragged me away. I continued to recite the poem even while they pulled me from my platform - a public manifestation of my early rebellion.

I believe that it is only by saying ‘no’ that we forge our identity.

The will to fight against injustice has guided me ever since. For more than four years now, I have campaigned against the compulsory hijab - a venture which started spontaneously on a beautiful May day, when the rain stopped and the sun came out. I lived in Kew Gardens at the time, and decided to run around amongst the cherry blossoms. I posted a picture of this on Facebook, not wearing a headscarf. In the picture, I was running through a street in London - enthralled by the sensation of the wind stroking my hair.

I hadn’t lived in Iran for a long time - forced to leave five years earlier. In 2009, there was a sweeping crackdown by the Islamic Republic authorities, and the country was gripped by large-scale protests against the electoral fraud. I settled down in the UK as a journalist, relaying the voices of families whose sons and daughters had been killed by the security forces with impunity.

After five years of covering political news, I longed for change. And, to my astonishment, this Kew Gardens photo prompted numerous women in Iran to reach out - sending me messages about how envious they were of my freedom, and expressing the sorrow they felt in being unable to share it.

Little did I know that, shortly afterwards, my Facebook feed and inbox would be inundated with photos sent from Iran by Iranian women; women who were stealthily enjoying the wind in their hair. And so a campaign named #MyStealthyFreedom was born. It was so successful that it soon morphed into related initiatives.

In May 2017, we launched #WhiteWednesdays (whereby every Wednesday, women in Iran go into public without a headscarf, or wear a white shawl to protest against compulsory hijab). Soon enough, women started walking the streets of Iran bare-headed, and sent me the videos of their rebellion.

Another groundbreaking moment took place in December, with the rise of the #GirlsOfRevolutionStreet movement. It began with Vida Movahedi, who started waving her white scarf as a flag in a busy street called Revolution Street, standing on a utility box on a hectic Wednesday morning.

Now, #WhiteWednesdays has grown so huge that women are walking unveiled in the streets of Iran on a daily basis. Our latest initiative, #MyCameraIsMyWeapon, has also garnered a huge following in Iran - as evidenced by the popularity of our Instagram videos. The campaign asks women to film the people who harass them in the street for being unveiled, which seems to have frightened the morality police officers.

At the heart of my activism is the need to give voice to the millions of silenced women in Iran - women who are continually ignored by the government. I attribute the success of my campaigns to the fact that they are utterly based on the actions of ordinary people. My role has been to give them a platform from which to relay their voices - so that they, too, can speak their forbidden words.

Masih Alinejad is the author of The Wind in My Hair: My Fight for Freedom in Modern Iran (Virago, £10.49 hardback). She joins us here on the bottom of this guest post for a webchat on Wednesday 27 June at 9pm. Post your questions here in advance if you can’t make it on the day.

OP posts:
Report
BeyondSceptical · 22/06/2018 12:33

Now this ^^ is a hero. ♥️

Report
EnidButton · 22/06/2018 13:31

❤️❤️❤️

Report
WhatTheWatersShowedMe · 22/06/2018 14:36

You are really inspirational, thank you for sharing your story and for showing how we can all be defiant and say no.

Report
Datun · 22/06/2018 15:31

No questions, but feeling a tremendous amount of admiration and taking an equal amount of inspiration.

Like others have said, how can we help?

Report
LoveInTokyo · 22/06/2018 16:02

What are your thoughts about women who want to wear the hijab?

I always think it looks horribly oppressive, particularly when you see hijabi women out and about on a hot summer's day with their husbands and children enjoying the sun with their T-shirts and bare heads. But I know someone who regularly posts on social media about how she chooses to wear the hijab and is proud to do so, and how she finally let her daughter start doing it at the beginning of secondary school after begging for ages to be allowed to start.

I find it strange, but do you have a perspective on that?

Report
AsAProfessionalFekko · 22/06/2018 17:02

I don't think I've met a single Persian woman who wears a scarf outside of Iran. No - actually there is one but only sometimes as she as works with a lot of families from the ME but it's still slung on the back of her hair and keeps falling back.

When I meet British women who have been born and brought up in the West and have chosen to cover their hair and/or face I wonder if they'd be quite so keen if they risked being picked up by the police for not doing so. Or if they heard that a female relative had been beaten for not complying. Would they be angry at the rule or the woman? Or women who convert (the ones I've met have generally done so on marriage) and choose to wear - what is basically traditional middle eastern clothing (not Persian).

God doesn't think you are a better woman for wearing a scrap of cloth.

Report
ALongHardWinter · 22/06/2018 17:20

I was going to say much the same that LoveInTokyo said. I've often thought how uncomfortable and oppresive a hijab looks in hot weather. It riles me that the men and boys are wandering around in shorts and T-shirts,with bare heads,while the women are not permitted to show any bare flesh,except their faces (and not even that sometimes!) and their hands. Until mid summer last year,I had been in a relationship with a Muslim man for several years,and when I questioned him about Muslim women wearing hijabs,he insisted it was because they wanted to,they enjoyed wearing it,and young girls couldn't wait to be allowed to wear one (although I have seen girls as young as 5 wearing them in the area that I live). I'm interested in your thoughts on this.

Report
gendercritter · 22/06/2018 19:10

I'd also like to ask what women in the UK can do to help your cause?

And are you concerned that there's been a rise in children wearing hijab in the UK over the years? How do you think this should be tackled?

Report
ClaireFraser · 22/06/2018 19:21

You are utterly awe inspiring. My question too, is as a white British feminist, what can I do to help?

Report
LastGirlOnTheLeft · 22/06/2018 21:46

You are amazing! There is no man I have ever read about that has inspired me as you have! Women are incredible!

Report
flowfrudiva · 22/06/2018 21:57

Brilliant. Inspiring. Thanks for all you do.

Report
YummySushi · 23/06/2018 01:49

Just make sure that you make it clear that not all cultures/societies treat women in this way .. and the hijab isn’t a sign of oppression unless you are an Iranian woman who has no say in it...

Because I know a lot of hijabis who are offended by the notion that their choice to wear a hijab is seen as a sign of oppression.

To a lot of them it’s a sign of their empowerment.

I think you will get a lot more support if you draw a distinction between what is a personal experience and what’s is generic experience of most hijabis world wide.

Report
ReluctantCamper · 23/06/2018 07:04

I listened to you on book of the week and thought how amazing you were, brave, stubborn and inspirational

Report
IamEarthymama · 23/06/2018 10:38

I am in awe of your strength and bravery, it is inspirational to see women coming together to say, we, too, are people who should not be oppressed by their sex.

This resonates deeply in the UK in 2018 and I hope women here can continue to speak out about a woman's place in modern society.

I echo previous posters in asking, what can white non-Muslim women do to support you?

Report
TalkingintheDark · 23/06/2018 20:37

Also completely inspired by you and your bravery and that of your countrywomen.

It certainly seems like this is having an impact in Iran. How much do you see things improving for women there, now and in the future?

And yes, what can we do to support you?

Report
leontheprofessional · 24/06/2018 15:26

Silence is loud and is a positive thing im glad abusive and hurtful people are being silenced, if it's good enough for Donald trump it's good enough for me

Report
AdoraBell · 24/06/2018 16:10

Truly inspiring.

Report
therealposieparker · 24/06/2018 17:33

Wonderful OP

Report
DistanceCall · 24/06/2018 20:50

Because I know a lot of hijabis who are offended by the notion that their choice to wear a hijab is seen as a sign of oppression.

A hijab is meant to cover women's hair because it might cause sexual feelings in men. That's why men aren't required to wear anything similar.

It's not something that is worn as a sign of belonging to a religion, like a Jewish yarmulke. It's something that says something about being a "decent" woman. That's why, for example, a nun can take off her wimple if it gets hot, but a hijabi won't take the veil off - because it's seen as "indecent".

Report
Tiggerzz · 24/06/2018 22:54

You're an inspiration Flowers

Report
YummySushi · 25/06/2018 00:43

DistanceCall... the Issue I’m addressing is whether it’s by choice or not ... some people feel happier wearing so why should we b “liberating” them

A lot of my close friends/relatives are hijabi so .... I might know exactly what it signifies and I’m sorry your not right

Report
Opheliah · 25/06/2018 08:42

YummySushi
What exactly does the hijab signify / mean and what is the purpose of one?

Report
therealposieparker · 25/06/2018 11:23

Yummy.

Where do men wear hijabs?

Report
PinCard · 25/06/2018 20:07

Do you support women who personally choose to wear hijab? Do you also give them a platform for their voice to be heard? Furthermore, would you support women who choose to wear hijab but are banned to wear hijab in certain countries?

Report
PinCard · 25/06/2018 20:11

@DistanceCall

That isn't true. A hijab has nothing to do with protecting men from sexual feelings. It is worn as a religious obligation to God.

Men and women both have rules of dress in the Muslim faith. Although it may seem men have it easier because they don't need to cover their heads for example, they have HUGE family and financial responsibilities, including paying for everything (and I mean every single thing) for his wife and children. Anything the wife earns is hers and hers alone. It is much easier being a practising Muslim woman than being a Muslim man.

Report
Please create an account

To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.