Mums of children with different races...

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I have 2 children, my first i had solo, she is mixed heritage. 3/4 another race & her skin is fairly dark.
My 2nd i had years later after meeting my now dh, who looks white although she is still 1/4 non white.

Most of the time i dont notice but every now & again i do, plus i wonder what people think when they see us. Not that it obviously matters but just makes me aware

Curious about what comes up for others In similar situation...

How do you have a child ‘solo’? You don’t have to answer of course, I understand that’s nothing to do with the question 😂 (and probably quite personal)

What’s your mix? Hard to tell from no info.

Her mix is irrelevant. So in my experience useful things to be aware of: the child growing up looking like the majority will have a totally different experience of and relationship to their identity and heritage to the one with skin that does not look like your local majority. The former may give little thought to issues of race for instance whilst the latter might encounter microaggressions on a daily basis. My advice is to support the development of friendships with people who can connect with these issues and have lots of drip drip conversations from an early age to form positive self identities and recognise the value of diversity in order to be resilient to the world around which may not be as tolerant.