Hi Sblubby
Thanks so much for what you said. It's so good to talk to someone who just knows how you feel. And am really touched you read blogdad's blog. I'm hopign he'll carry on with it as he put so much work into it and I feel that to write about this side of things would mean a lot to people. But I'm just going to wait to see what he says and if he feels he can.
Glad you are starting to have more good days than bad. And well done for fighting our corner re services. I think the fact you've been through so much and still managed to do your job is amazing. I don't think I could have done that. Never underestimate how strong you've been xx
Hi dan39
Thanks so much for your lovely words. Part of me feels I should have known sooner, six weeks is a long time to carry on not realising. And the sense that something wasn't right wasn't long before the scan, so for at least a month my body was playing tricks. There's one person who I've found pretty insensitive when they ask me things, about if there were any signs, what I think caused it etc as if it had been my fault. But I know that I did everything by the book in terms of what I did eat and didn't eat etc, no drinking, getting rest, doing exercise, and all this even in the run up to trying for a baby so I had the best possible chance. So I'm trying not to be paranoid about what people think went wrong when they ask as I know we did our best.
Am really glad to hear your good news that you're pregnant again and hope you are feeling okay. You've really cheered me up to know it happened so quickly. xx
Hi barbie1
I hope that too, that we'll have happy, healthy pregnancies in the future. You've been so brave, so strong, I don't know how you've got through all those weddings when you've had to face so much but I'm sure everyone really appreciated you being there and being so selfless.
I do have a bit of good news - I've just got my period. Strange how exciting that's now become! For the last however long I've been wishing for the opposite! But hopefully it's a sign that my body is getting back to normal again and so when we're ready we can start trying again. Good luck with everything xx
Hi sfxmum
Thanks for your message, it means a lot to know that after going through all this you had a smooth pregnancy. It gives me hope as I keep wondering if next time the same will happen again and don't know if I can face that. So thank you, it's good to know things can work out second time around. xx
Hi Newb
Am so sorry to hear about your loss. That's such a lovely idea of keeping all your precious little things. I think it's so important to do that. And I know what you mean about it being so hard to other people's news. Heard today someone else pregnant and just feels too much. With people who seem to get pregnant quickly and sail through everything, I don't think they always realise how lucky they are when they haven't seen the other side of things. I've never been an angry person but feel myself getting annoyed at the slightest things at the moment, being snappy and sometimes feeling really angry as it just feels so unfair when you see someone shout or swear at their little person in the pushchair in the supermarket and you just think, you have no idea how lucky you are. But I guess that's a natural stage of things to go through. Have you felt like that? And I hope that as time goes by and I shake off the flu - feels like one thing after another at the moment - and get stronger physically that coping with the world isn't as tough xx
Hi harro39
Thanks for your support. And well done for standing up for yourself and going back to them to ask questions. Two weeks is way too long to wait. And I really hope you get on okay on Tuesday, I'll be thinking of you. I think the limbo is one of the hardest things to go through. When we had the 12 week scan, we then had to go back on the Monday to have it confirmed and it was just the longest weekend. It was my birthday on the day of the first scan and that weekend a birthday meal was planned with my parents and sister and in a way I couldn't face it, but in another way I wanted them all close to me so we did go ahead. It's so strange looking back, as we'd thought with my birthday being so close to when we'd finally be able to tell people and celebrate about having a our first bbq and party in the garden and inviting the all our friends, family and making it a chance to meet the neighbours, but where as normally I'd love to do something like this, I just didn't want to. Maybe even back then it was a sign from my body before I knew. I just don't know, but have to say am so relieved didn't plan it as thought of either having to cancel two days before and people ask why or to go ahead and put brave face on would be too much.
I've just bought the Lesley Regan book on What every woman needs to know about miscarriage after was recommended it on here and have to say it's a great book. Not everything in it applies to me but if you'd like to read something for support, for reassurance and just to blinking well know that a top expert out there knows what you're feeling then it really is money well spent. For me, it's just helped me understand a bit more and also to be better prepared for hopefully when I fall pregnant in the future. I long to have a baby and know that hopefully when it happens I'll appreciate it even more than I would have done had things been different this time. xx