Hi all. I’m new here. This seems to be a really great place for extra support. I’ll start with a little about me. I’m 39, I have 3 children 17, 8 and 6 and my partner has 2, 13 and 10. We decided to try for one together so last July we had the Mirena removed. On December 20th we were given the best Xmas present ever only to have it ripped away last week.
On the Monday I started spotting late afternoon. Spoke to the midwife who advised me to speak to the GP. I rang the next morning as it was after surgery closed and I had an emergency appointment at 11.15. He checked my BP and checked my abdomen and contacted EPAU. They couldn’t see me until Thursday and I had my 12 week scan booked for the next day so was told to go to that and hopefully all would be ok. If anything changed to go to a&e. Well it wasn’t. Far from it. At about 5pm the bleeding intensified. Massively. I rung 111 about 7pm, by this time I was pouring blood and clots and could feel them all coming out. There was no way this baby was going to survive. The amount of blood was scaring the life out of me. I arrived at A&E around 8.30pm. Every time I stood up I gushed blood. It was horrible. At almost 11pm we’re sent to the EPAU. By this time I was wearing a hospital blanket as I had soaked through my legging the last time I’d stood up where there’d inserted a canular and taken bloods. I was cleaned out and they’d decided I was to stay overnight for the blood loss to be monitored as they hadn’t found any evidence of pregnancy material. I assumed I had already passed it with what I’d lost. I passed out briefly so was told not to go anywhere alone. Other half reluctantly went home as the kids were to sort for school the next morning. The next morning the bleeding had eased a bit. I was scanned at lunch time where they confirmed everything was gone and there was just bits left in the cervix. I was manually cleaned again and discharged home later that day. That had to be the worst 2 days of my whole entire life.
Almost 2 weeks on I’m still bleeding. I lost a couple of clots this morning so hoping it’s near the end so I can move forward somehow. How long is not normal for the bleeding to stop? I have access to the EPAU until March 6th so if it hasn’t eased by Tuesday which will be 2 weeks I’m going to ring them and see what they advise.
The next problem I have is every single one of my friends is expecting. Some have delivered and the rest are 20 weeks plus. I’m trying to be normal with them but it’s so hard. It’s tearing me apart. I love them all dearly and so want them to have their babies etc but it’s so painful 😭 How do you even move in from this.... My last miscarriage was back in 2000. But I made it to that scan and was told my baby had died and had a D&C so it was so different to this. I can’t even remember the emotions I carried with that with it being so long ago.
Sorry for the long post but I needed to get it out properly. Thank you for reading xxx
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mommato3 · 24/02/2019 13:14
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