Pls can you tell me your MMC experiences

[CremeDeSudo]

I went for an early scan on Wed at 8,4. Baby was measuring 7,5 and had no heartbeat

I'm trying wait for nature to take it's course but not much is happening. I've had some cramping and back ache, all my symptoms have gone and had a tiny bit of brown discharge yesterday. But I want it to all be over now.

I've been told I can change my mind and opt for a pessary but my friend told me that was incredibly painful and to avoid it. So I'm not sure what to do.

I'm hoping some of your experiences might help.

Did it happen naturally after? How long after your scan? Has anyone had the medically induced MC?

TIA MN x

[weasledee]

Hi ladies, i too had the pessaries yesterday and passed the baby last night. It's a sad time but hopefully we will be able to try again soon.
Wishing everyone all the best x

[user1498854762]

Weasledee, crying with you 😢 but also sending you hugs 🤗 xxxx

It's comforting to hear all your stories and thank you for sharing. I think this is getting me through just knowing that I'm not alone and nothing's wrong with me. It's also the same for all of us. We will get through this phase xxx onwards and upwards

[theotherendofthesockportal]

I am so sorry that this is happening to you.

It happened to me in January, I has felt for some time that something wasn't right, I was tired and spaced out all the time.

My scan far been delayed because of Christmas and I was due to be scanned at 13 weeks. 2 days before the scan I woke up to bleeding and my boobs had returned to normal and by tiny bump had moved down.

I went to the hospital who really dismissive (that's another story). I had the scan as planned despite having regular cramps leading up to it. At the scan they said baby had stopped developing around 8/9 weeks.

I think I must have gone into shock as nothing happens then until the next day when I woke up to the waters breaking. For me it seems that the sack had continued to grow although the baby had gone. Within half an hour it was all over, although I continued to have a period like bleed for 2 weeks.

It would have been by due to date last week :( I miss the little person that we never got to meet and I will never ever forget them.

I am 24 weeks pregnant now, very anxious about everything. I found this forum a huge support. There is always someone here.

You are in my thoughts 💐

[weasledee]

Theotherend it's nice to hear stories of hope after such a sad time....
User, I asked the doctor today how often they deal with a medical miscarriage on the ward, he said everyday there's someone going through it and its a really small hospital. Even the male doctor said women just don't talk about it so it appears that it happens infrequently, when that's far from the truth x

[user1498854762]

Guess what I found out ladies. Medical management doesn't always clear things out 100%. I've now got to do the surgery anyway, Doctors saying she suspects molar pregnancy which can have the effect of me needing to be monitored for months.

There seems to be no closure and I feel so low about it all. Want it to be over 😢

[CremeDeSudo]

Yes that's partly why I decided to go with the surgical anyway. Try not to worry about it, honestly it was fine. I've had barely any bleeding since either. Hope it goes ok

[UnicornsandRainbows1]

I'm really sorry you're going through this user! It seems to be never-ending. Do they know when it will be at all? I wish you a speedy recovery from it whenever it happens.

Honestly just reading through your stories, I'm not sure how to explain it because I ache for every one of you and it's a horrible, horrible situation... I just mean that in a way it's a comfort to know that there's someone to chat to and share their experiences so no-one is completely alone. I'll shut up now

[brightlightceiling]

I waited weeks with one till nature took its course. I was further than you and was emotionally unprepared for what happened but there is a good thread on mumsnet somewhere what to expect. I didn't expect having contractions and if I'd known I would have handled it better. A warm shower is really nice and it was just a couple of hours. The second time I was just 8 weeks or so and had to put 4 pills up my foof. It took 4 days of off and on cramping before I lost it. It was less painful but worse than the first miscarriage because it took so long and I was soooo fed up with it. I liked the natural miscarriage better. Badically my emotional state was what made the difference for me.

The pain is just physical pain. Your brain does not get the signal that something is wrong. Because of this it is much better to handle. I see no point in being extra uncomfortable for the sake of it.

As soon as thinks start happening stay home and take ibuprofen. Look up what the max dose is for you and when to take it during the day. Do not lessen this till its out. Once it is out you instantly feel more relaxt.

A hot water bottle or warm shower or bath really helps feeling more comfortable.

Good luck

[user1498854762]

Thanks ladies. It's so nice to have you here. I Hope so too Creme. Unicornsandrainbows, the surgery is Wednesday. I'm hoping I won't have any more issues after that. I'm sorry you've gone through it twice. I don't even want to try again yet. Might take me some time to get to that point. Brightlightceiling, you're spot on. It's my mind that's half the battle and somehow talking to people that understand, here and outside of home just makes it that much better. For someone to just say it's going to be fine and it's okay to feel that way and take all the time you need, sometimes those 3 phrases in combination just gives me the energy to get up and say alright enough sulking 😊

[UnicornsandRainbows1]

I'll be thinking of you. Please let us know how it goes when you're more settled and ready to. I hope you won't have to deal with anything afterwards so it's straightforward and then you can just concentrate on looking after yourself and those around you.

Also it's okay that you don't want to try again so soon. Take the time to heal and mend as much as you need to!

[user1498854762]

Quick update: procedure went fine. It was actually a smooth and fast process and not too much pain. They're gonna test the stuff that came out but other this that I should be back to myself in 48 hours. 😊🙏🏽

[CremeDeSudo]

Excellent news I'm glad it went well. Honestly, I felt so much better within a couple of days, I'm sure you will too. Lots of rest now!

[UnicornsandRainbows1]

I'm glad it went well user. Hoping you have a swift recovery

[beanhunter]

Thank you all for sharing. I'm having surgery tomorrow. We had our 12 week scan yesterday and baby had no heart beat and probably died 2 days earlier. I'm broken. We had scans at 6/8/9 weeks and still vomiting multiple times a day. My body has cheated me.

[user1498854762]

Hugs beanhunter 😔 Warm cozy hugs 😔😔 🤗

12 weeks of anticipation is hurtful. It's such a hard time and yes I blame my body too. Just get on with it I told my body, other bodies seem to manage fine!

But you know what, this forum just shows you it's not just you and my bodies, it's all of us that talk about it and it's millions of other women who don't! Nobody can explain why and as my doctor told me, sometimes they grow and develop, sometimes they don't. That's life and it's never anybody's fault and there's nothing you could have done better to avoid it 😑 I was so devastated I chose to speak to a miscarriage counsellor. It helped!!!

I've recently found out and accepted that it's going to be okay! I also found out there's no right way to handle it or feel! Best option to deal I think is surgery. Surgery is short, surgery works and you may still bleed for a few days after, maybe passing some clots but it's nothing to be afraid of and it gives closure faster than any other way.

Please come on here anytime and however often you want and update us on how you're doing, how you're feeling and how it all goes tomorrow xxxx

[UnicornsandRainbows1]

But you know what, this forum just shows you it's not just you and my bodies, it's all of us that talk about it and it's millions of other women who don't! Nobody can explain why and as my doctor told me, sometimes they grow and develop, sometimes they don't. That's life and it's never anybody's fault and there's nothing you could have done better to avoid it

You know, I've tried telling myself this numerous times, but having someone else say it makes it a bit more believable. So thank you for sharing!

@beanhunter I can't even imagine how hurtful and how much of a kick in the heart that is. I wish you all the best for tomorrow.

[user1498854762]

Thinking of you beanhunter 😘

[CremeDeSudo]

Beanhunter, I can't even imagine. Sending hugs. I hope all goes well today. Xx

[18mnthsandcounting]

Hi ladies I'm so glad I came across this forum..
I'm looking for some advice..
Basically I had medical management of miscarriage on the 26th June at 10 weeks (was told baby had stopped growing at 6 weeks and no hb)
I passed all the clots as I was told I would and bleeding seemed to die down about 2 weeks after however I am still bleeding now and am starting to feel very concerned. It doesn't feel as if I've had a period as there has been very little fresh blood and no other symptoms of having a period.
Anybody else had a similar experience of a medical miscarriage with 6 weeks of bleeding?
Not sure what to do, desperate to start trying again we've been trying for over 2 years and this is my second miscarriage (1st one happened naturally).

[18mnthsandcounting]

Sorry that was so long! Tried to cut it short 🙈

[user1498854762]

Hey 18mnthsandcounting, for my first miscarriage this time last year, although it was natural. I bled for 6 weeks but afterwards it stopped naturally. Concerned I went to a&e but after waiting 8 hours there was nothing they could do for me. They just told me to let it pass.

I'd say don't worry too much about it. My clinic told me to take pregnancy tests every 2 weeks. If it continues for much longer then like me you may have to go to a&e. But just know it's not unusual.

Hope it gets better soon xxxx

[UnicornsandRainbows1]

Hi 18mnthsandcounting. I'm really sorry that you're still bleeding after everything.

I didn't have medical management (so you're more than welcome to discard this), however have you had a follow-up or scan at all? Or have any other additional bits aside from the bleeding? It might be that you're body is just taking a bit longer which sucks, but it might be worth making a call to your gp if you haven't already just for some reassurance and to see if they have any other suggestions.

I definitely stand by what user said about taking a test every couple of weeks too. And don't forget that the EPU who you may have been in contact with before are on hand too. So maybe give them a ring as they deal with this daily and might be able to give you more useful info.

Please make sure you're looking after yourself and getting enough iron and things too It takes a lot out of you

[UnicornsandRainbows1]

Sorry that was such a long post!!

[18mnthsandcounting]

Thank you so much guys definitely given me a lot go think about I think I may wait it out a bit longer as I'm generally feeling well in myself and all pregnancy tests are negative.
Thank you for replying x

[UnicornsandRainbows1]

Hope things are moving in the right direction for you now @18mnths