Pls can you tell me your MMC experiences

[CremeDeSudo]

I went for an early scan on Wed at 8,4. Baby was measuring 7,5 and had no heartbeat

I'm trying wait for nature to take it's course but not much is happening. I've had some cramping and back ache, all my symptoms have gone and had a tiny bit of brown discharge yesterday. But I want it to all be over now.

I've been told I can change my mind and opt for a pessary but my friend told me that was incredibly painful and to avoid it. So I'm not sure what to do.

I'm hoping some of your experiences might help.

Did it happen naturally after? How long after your scan? Has anyone had the medically induced MC?

TIA MN x

[Blackcatonthesofa]

Gosh, I don't know what to advise you. I had one that didn't have a heartbeat at 8 weeks that I finally lost at 11 weeks. The sac had grown though. I had contractions (doable ones but was unprepared for it) for three hours and then it came out. I vomited as well. Right afterwards I felt weak but fine really. When it was out all the pain and everything was instantly gone.

The second one that didn't have a heatbeat I took pills that you insert in your vagina. I had a painful belly (weird feeling) off and on (mostly on ) for four days. The pain was less intense but I didn't cope with it well mentally because it took too long for me.

I had a couple of miscarriages at 5/6 weeks. Not mentionable for this thread really. Like a day at home with ibuprofen.

I chose not to have a d&c because I'm scared for perforation. I know the chance is slim though.

The second it starts take your paracetamol. Look up what your maximum doses is, divide it throughout the day and keep taking it till it's out. A warm shower is your friend.

[shushpenfold]

Poor you. I've had 2 MCs and 1 MMC.
I found out that I had lost the baby at 7 weeks at the 12 week scan. Small amount of brown blood started the day before the scan. I had a D&C because the sac just wasn't leaving...5 weeks later it was still hanging on. Procedure was fine but it took me a week to start grieving, as we flew to France the next morning for a wedding and holiday.
We went on to have 3 children. Luck and thoroughly un-mumsnetty hugs to you. Xxx

[brybow81]

I'm so sorry for what everyone is going through and cannot believe how common miscarriages are, but it doesn't make it any easier does it?

I'm hoping that someone might have been through something similar to myself and can offer some ray of light...

Brief background, I had my first miscarriage in June 2016 at 6 weeks, ended up having a D&C with laparoscopy (sp!) as the doctors were concerned about location of pregnancy due to slow rising bHCG levels.

My second miscarriage was in February 2017 at 5 weeks and when I went to A&E my hormone levels were very low and so I was simply told to take another pregnancy test the follow week to confirm the miscarriage was complete.

In May 2017 I had my third miscarriage at 6 weeks 4 days. I elected for the natural course after having a D&C I didn't want the surgery recovery time. After 10 days I changed my mind, the waiting was killing me (and I was still having pregnancy symptoms of sore boobs and nausea) and I didn't want to drag the process out any further. I had the ERPC on 3 June and was advised to take a pregnancy test 3 weeks later to confirm all back to normal. By late June my hormone levels had risen since the procedure (not a new pregnancy!). A scan showed that I still had "products" in my uterus. I was booked in for a second surgery the following week (as it was Friday!), however I started bleeding heavily that night so the decision was made (doctors decision) to cancel the surgery as my hormone levels had dropped significantly and I was still bleeding so it appeared my body was now miscarriaging naturally. Now fast forward another 11 weeks and I'm still having weekly blood tests as I still have bHCG in my blood and whereas previously my levels were dropping although very slowly, last weeks results actually went up from 52 to 77.

I've scoured the internet to find someone going through the same as me and at present I've had no luck so tonight I join this forum in the hope someone out there can give me some light....

[Oc1992]

Thank you for sharing your story with us.. I literally just experienced the worst pain of my life today.. I went for another scan to find that I infact had passed the 'sac' myself as I had thought without realising but I needed to pass a lot more tissue, so I decided to take the second set of tablets. And almost automatically I felt like what I imagine contractions to feel like.. I got really bad diarrhoea to go with it (sorry for tmi).. I was eating the painkillers for about 4 hours and nothing was helping, even my hot water bottle or 13 weeks old puppy couldn't even provide me with any comfort.. I was doubled over in agony on the toilet squealing in pain.. my poor boyfriend having to witness it. I then passed what I can also only describe as grey/blood stained matter long thick and stringy.. so maybe this was also the placenta that you've talked about. Since then I have definitely been less sore & I'm not bleeding so heavily. I almost feel like a weight has been lifted off my shoulders!

[MrsPidge]

I personally want to share my MMC experience with you ladies, as I feel that everyone's experience is different but you are never informed of what will actually happen if you wait for a natural miscarriage.
Unfortunately I lost my baby at 8 weeks but didn't know until I was 11 weeks. The nurse said it was best to have a natural miscarriage rather than a D&C but I really would not recommend it.
A week went by and I had had no symptoms but then the night before I was due to go back to the EPU for a confirmation scan, I started to get some cramps and bleeding.
Two days later, I was woken up in the early hours of the morning with cramp. I got up to take some pain killers and then the pain hit me. It was like nothing I had ever felt.
I spent from 5am - 10am locked in the bathroom as I was unable to move from the toilet due to the amount of blood I was passing. (Sorry for TMI)
I was bleeding very heavily and I started to pass grey tissue and this was accompanied by the worst pain I had ever experienced.
I then felt that something else was passing through me (again sorry for TMI) and it felt heavy and I knew it wasn't blood. When it did pass, I was too weak and terrified to turn to see what had happened but based on what others had written of their experiences, I believe this was the Sac.
My boyfriend woke up at about 8am and realised that I wasn't in bed. I hadn't wanted to wake him up as I didn't want him to see the pain I was going through. I told him that I was worried about how much blood I was losing though and he ended up calling 111 for medical advice. They actually sent an ambulance out as they were really concerned about how much I had lost, as I was going through a pad about every 20 minutes when I had tried to leave the toilet.
We ended up being up the hospital for about 5 hours, going from A&E to another department. I was assessed and given some fluids and they advised that my blood pressure was low. However, when it came to them actually assessing how much blood I was losing (by checking the pad I was wearing) the bleeding had eased off as by that point, I had been bleeding heavily for nearly 12 hours.
I didn't see an actual Gynaecologist but the Dr spoke to them on the phone and as the bleeding had eased off, they decided I was well enough to go home but if the bleeding got worse again or if I was in pain, I had to go to the GP or go back to A&E.
That night at home I felt a little better. The bleeding had eased off and I hadn't been in much pain since passing the Sac that morning.
The following day, I hardly had much blood but was starting to feel a bit uncomfortable. That night when I was about to go to bed, I started to get very bad cramps and was crying in bed. My boyfriend got me some painkillers but these didn't do anything and a hot water bottle was not helping either.
I ended up going to the bathroom and the bleeding started again with some clots but it wasn't as heavy as the day before. However, I ended up passing something much larger this time and I was terrified as I thought that I had passed everything the day before. I ended up looking to see what it was this time, as I was super scared. The only way I can describe it, is that it looked a bit like a chicken drumstick in shape and it was heavy and made up of grey tissue but it was covered in blood so it was very red. (Again sorry for TMI) My boyfriend ended up googling to see what it was as I was panicking as I had no idea what the actual process of a miscarriage was as no one really explains this to you when you find out that you are going to have one and it's not really explained in the leaflets you are given either. It turns out that it was the Placenta that I had passed and that should mean that everything had left my body as it should.
This took part last night and today I haven't had a lot of pain and not too much bleeding but I wanted to post this very long and detailed story to let others know what happened to me and to try and help put their mind at ease if they are going through this as well. This has been the worst experience of my life and I really wish I had opted for a D&C due to how much blood I lost and just the overall mental experience but I do understand completely why women do chose to have a natural one. I guess I was just one of the unluckier ones who had some difficulties with mine, as I have read that some ladies don't notice that they have actually passed the baby and don't get much bleeding.
My boyfriend has been amazing throughout this whole experience though and has never left my side and I am genuinely so sorry for all the other women who have had to go through this heartache. These websites and posts really do help women to understand that they are not alone and their is love and support around them. I hope this posts helps someone but I am very sorry if you do ever need to read this

[Oc1992]

So it may very well have already happened and I didn't know?? Fingers crossed... I go back in the morning anyway for another scan & to see if it's worked. If not then second set of tablets/erpc as my very last option 😞 I'm not interested in that path right now and still hold hope that the tablets might have worked. Thanks for your reply xx

[spottyteapot16]

Without wanting to be gross it nearly clear and only a few cm big so really hard to see in the toilet as it might be under other stuff. If you're passing clots I wouldn't worry but obviously get in touch with the epu for advice they won't mind xx

[Oc1992]

Ladies I decided to opt for the tablets.. I've had a lot of bleeding and clots since taking them yesterday but I haven't passed anything that I can really say I know was 'the sac'?? I was only measuring 7 weeks when the heart beats stopped anyway, so is it possible that I may have passed it and didn't even know?? I'm stressing myself that I haven't passed it yet.. it's now been just over 24 hours since I took the oral medication x

[user1498854762]

Hi Jules, hcg levels can be a confusing one but basically the hormone exists naturally in the body at a low level and Is measured in milli-international units per milliliter (mIU/ml) so when you get pregnant it increases significantly. I think around 1 or 2mlU/ml. Basically a hCG level of less than 5mIU/ml is considered negative for pregnancy, and anything above 25mIU/ml is considered positive for pregnancy and the level will double every 2-3 days in early pregnancy. 85% of normal pregnancies will have the HCG level double every 72 hours. It's the clearest and most reliable test of pregnancy that's why we use it. If yours is low then, something is wrong. I'm really sorry 😔

I had a day of bleeding and small clots too! It was a scary time and 12 weeks on I'm only just getting back to normal. You'll get through it!! Sending you hugs 🤗🌷

[Oc1992]

Jules3300 I'm so so sorry to hear about your hard time.. I don't know a lot about any blood tests etc, but I'm going through a missed miscarriage currently & it's honestly the hardest thing I've ever ever done. But we will come out the other side & try again. Lots of hugs your way xx

[Jules3300]

Hi I found out I was pregnant last Thursday Im sure I was about 5 weeks pregnant I did 2 early response pregnancy tests that were positive definitely 2 lines on both tests and 1 clear blue digital test said pregnant 1-2 weeks. I've felt fine all week had sore breasts some lower back pain and some period like cramps that seemed normal to me as I had them when was pregnant with my son. Now it's been one week last night Thursday I went to the toilet and I wiped myself there was some brown discharge that turned pinkish colour I was worried as never had this before. I went to hospital to see out of hours doctor he explained to me that sometimes it's normal and isn't serious and told me to phone early pregnancy unit in the morning. Now today (Friday) I went to toilet this morning and wiped myself there was red blood with what looked like small clots I didn't have any cramps or pain. I phoned the early pregnancy unit this morning and explained everything to the nurse and she asked me to come in for blood test today and again in 48 hours on Sunday then if alls well I'll get an early scan. I went to the early pregnancy unit at the hospital this morning I got my blood taken the nurse told me once my results come back this afternoon if my hcg levels are ok I will get a scan today if theyve gone down I will need to come back in 48 hours for another blood test. I went home and waited for the results I've still been having bleeding most of day with what look like clots and some cramps. The nurse phoned me this afternoon told me my hcg blood results were negative she said I am going through a miscarriage. I'm realy confused should they not be low

[spottyteapot16]

I don't think there are any wrong choices, just what feels right for you. If going through it naturally feels like you'd be able to accept the reality of what's happened then thats totally ok. My MMC started with light brown spotting stop/starting for 3 days before it started properly so you might be on your way. The uncertainty is one of the hardest things, I almost felt relieved when mine started because I could stop worrying about the worst and just get on with it. Sending you hugs xxx

[Oc1992]

Ladies I really really appreciate your kindness at this horrible time. I've been waiting and passed what seems like just browny/skin coloured stuff, but not much, kinda just what you'd imagine the very start of your period to be like.. I've been willing myself to go naturally now before Friday because I really don't want to have to go down the medical route but if needs be we've decided to go for the cyctotec tablet I think if that's the way it has to be. I'm prepared with all the pads etc because I've been doing my research on what happens next and god love my partner he's been so so good, trying to take my mind off it all but sometimes I just want to talk about it and he gets very quiet.. I suppose men just can't process it the same way as us ladies. He spoken with his female gp colleagues about it and they've suggested that I just go for the surgical option because it'll be done and dusted quicker for me, but a part of me is honestly wanting to experience all that goes with miscarriage to actually believe it.. I don't know if that sounds wrong of me to say but it's just the way I'm feeling (maybe it's me wanting to feel in control of it as best I can?)

[spottyteapot16]

Oh oc, I'm so sorry. I think before it happens to you it's hard to appreciate miscarriage is a bereavement but it really is. I found emotionally it's good to let yourself feel the sadness without trying to make sense of it or makeit feel better in some way... It's hard at the time but it sort of gets it out and when I dealt with it like this I felt better quicker (I've had three) Have a good cry when you need to, take enough time off work, take time resting and doing what makes you feel good (knitting, walking, talking to friends,chocolate,). It helps talking to people but you might have to be really clear about what you need from them because people find it difficult to know what to say, especially older relatives. Physically, (I hope this isn't too full on given the stage you're at - this is the nitty gritty) have lots of sanitary towels in the house. There's likely o be lots of clots and you might pass a clear/pinky/white sac that looks a bit like an egg white but you might not realise you have either. The bleeding might last for a couple of weeks.... It's hard during your first period after a miscarriage, which I wasn't expecting but I think is quite common... a long walk brought on my missed miscarriage. I've always had spontaneous miscarriages so I'm afraid I can't advise you about making decisions on medical management but I really hope that you have peace with whatever decision you make. Big hugs to both of you 💐

[CremeDeSudo]

Hi Oc sorry to hear your story.

I can't offer any advice on where to go from here. You've probably read further up the thread that I tried to wait but after a week it really got to me. I just couldn't do it and I ended up making myself ill.

I've not heard of anyone using acupuncture for this, but I know of people who've used it for other reasons and swear by it so if it was me I'd be tempted to give it a go!

In the meantime, just take it easy, be kind to yourself, do anything that'll make you feel happier.

[Oc1992]

Has anyone ever tried acupuncture to bring things along naturally??

[user1498854762]

OC1992, I'm so sorry. My heart broke just now hearing your story. I don't have much more advice than what you've been told already and all I can say is just follow what the doctors say. Get as much rest as you can and spoil yourself rotten as best you can.🤗🤗🤗 Here if you need to talk, give good news, vent or just cry xxx

[Oc1992]

I've just gotten the news there on Friday at a 10 week ultrasound that my 'twins' are not viable and stopped growing at 6.5 and 7 weeks. Both have foetal poles she said but she was unable to see any sign of heartbeats or any blood supply getting to them.
I never had any unusual cramping, no spotting or anything, all I can say is my 'pregnancy symptoms' weren't ever Very evident... I just had incredibly sore boobs (which I still do) and the odd bout of nausea (only vomiting approx 3 mornings) obviously there was also some tears, actually a lot of tears, but everyone assured me that can be totally normal in the first trimester. Well it obviously wasn't when we got the news that we did. They want me to go back on Friday now and have it confirmed on another ultrasound. It is my first pregnancy and obviously we are totally devastated. I am honestly wondering at this point if I could ever get through hearing those words again if it happened a second time.

The only thing that made me not break down on the spot was that we really had the most lovely midwife tell us the news with tears in her eyes. As a nurse and my boyfriend a doctor we really were thankful for the compassion and honesty she showed towards us. She obviously had to tell us that in her gut she doesn't believe that the pregnancy is viable but she could not confirm this for us until a second ultrasound later this week.
It is by no means an easy thing for me to accept walking around with dead twins inside me and my heart hurts so so badly I don't know what to do with myself. I know on Friday I will be having to discuss my options on what to do next, I am praying hard that I will miscarry naturally before then because I don't want medical intervention, but I also don't want it to be a long drawn out process either.

I find myself lying in bed just waiting for something to happen, I have the odd twinge now but again nothing out of the ordinary. I fought with myself the past few days angry with my body that it didn't tell me before someone with a probe had to. I had to have an internal as well as an external ultrasound because they are simply too small to be seen on the external. She asked me if it's possible my dates could be wrong but I don't believe in my heart that that's a possibility. I'm trying my damnest now to accept the inevitable and I just pray that it happens soon for me so I can start to really process it all. Thank you again for sharing your experiences and I would appreciate any advice here on in.. I know it's going to be awful & am expecting it but it doesn't make things any easier for us xx

[UnicornsandRainbows1]

@spottyteapot Nooo. Honestly I think (just in general) it's something that needs to be mentioned more. No-one really mentions the details that occur and even in leaflets, they kind of gloss over how brutal it can be. Ofc it'd send people into a panic and whatnot, but I dunno, I just think it's important to share if you want to and be honest.

Oh that's really shit They do! Make sure you keep looking after yourself

[spottyteapot16]

Thanks user14 and unicorns, it's nice talking to people who don't pale at the details haha. I got like a clear egg yolk thing so pretty sure it's gone but hey miracles happen right? Thanks for hugs xx I hope fertility doctor goes well 18 months xx

[UnicornsandRainbows1]

@spottyteapot16 I'm sorry I can't really offer much insight on the sac part unfortunately (I'm sure someone will be along to help you out more). I didn't want to just read your comment and not reply though. I just wanted to offer all my hugs to you and say how sorry I am that you're going through this and stuck in limbo.
It's horrible just waiting around

[user1498854762]

18months, onwards and upwards!

[spottyteapot16]

Hey guys, I hope you don't mind me butting in. I think I've just miscarried at 9 weeks, fourth miscarriage but the other ones were all earlier. In the waiting for scan limbo. It just sucks doesn't it. Maybe tmi but has anyone ever passed the sac? I think I might have but not sure what I was looking at. Has anyone ever been seen for recurrent miscarriage? Thanks :) xx

[UnicornsandRainbows1]

Brilliant news! Good luck with the doctor :)

[18mnthsandcounting]

Bleeding is starting to die down now @unicornsandrainbows1 and got my appointment to see fertility doctor so feeling positive thank you x