Hello all, in early January I had to have a termination after my 20 week scan detected unsurvivable abnormalities in my baby's brain and heart. It just wasn't on our radar at all and our hearts were completely broken. As I'm sure other women who have had a loss will agree, the desire to get pregnant again has been overwhelming and all-consuming.
The dr advised that I wait to get my period and for the post mortem (which showed no genetic issues) before trying, so we did. I've now had two 'normal-ish' cycles of 35/31 days, but have just got my period today . I was so hopeful with my last cycle and had all these 'symptoms' that I convinced myself that I could be again, so it feels so devastating to be back to square one.
I've tried to keep busy, exercise, eat healthy, stay positive etc etc, but it's exhausting and I'm so worried and stressed that something is wrong. Everyone tells me to 'relax and it'll happen', 'live your life and don't worry', but I don't know how that's possible when it's all I can think about. I want to scream, 'I'm meant to be having a baby next month and my baby is gone!'
With our first pregnancy it took 9 months, I know that's not long in the grand scheme of things, but every time my period turns up it's such an awful reminder of our loss that I end up feeling so depressed and completely hopeless.
For those of you who have conceived after a loss, how long did it take? Is there anything you tried that might help me too?
Thank you in advance for any support or advice you can give me. X
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Trying to conceive after loss - help
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izzytwobells · 17/04/2016 17:08
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