Further to my post about changing DD's name, Gillybean mentioned an shared residency order. All I can say is I hope ex doesn't get any ideas on that score. Trouble is he drinks to put it politely, and he's a f*g alcoholic if we're being honest. Most nights he's to pd to be trusted with the care of a baby. When sober he's a lovely dad and I'd have absolutely no qualms about him, but sadly, sobriety tends to only affect him by day and after about 8pm (on a good day) I'm on my own with looking after DD. He's not violent or abusive, just useless. There's no way I'd be happy with him having DD without me there to make sure she's OK. He's even admitted to driving his son in the car after drinking, but only "on occasion", like that makes it alright. Also, his son, DD's half brother, is a nice kid, but tends to be a bit too rough with DD (the other day he pulled her hair, hard, because she had pulled his - never mind that he was lying on her playmat encouraging her to do it, and when his dad told him off and said she didn't understand that she had hurt him, his reply was "well, she should", he's 8, she's 8 months, quite how I managed to bite my tongue, I don't know...) and I don't trust ex to supervise him with her properly. So I think in this case, an SRO is out of the question. Even if he claimed to stop drinking, I wouldn't trust him.
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