My XP is complaining that he has seen DD for half an hour more than his allocated time, over the course of a fortnight and....

[Aimsmum]

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[grouchyoscar]

OOoooooooo, aimsmum, he needs his legs slapping and be made to sit on the naughty step for at least 10 minutes.


What a twonk

[NKF]

What a mean spirited man. Poor you and your poor daughter.

[Tinkerbel5]

a trans fats sausage roll for breakfast, maybe he could give her toast next time

[NAB3]

I wouldn't let my child see their father who refuses to feed her. He is unbelievable.

[Aimsmum]

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[pirategirl]

HI Aimsmum,

God your post just shows how ridiculoous these fathers have become.

I think rising above it is the best way, yet don't you find that after a while they say or do something so mad, that you can't help but react.

I hope your little one had an ok time.

wil check back later.

take care.

[pooka]

Ainsmum

He sounds like such a waste of space. What kind of a father does he think he is? What an immature response to fatherhood and the responsibilities (and joys) it brings.

Reading your post has made me so angry.

[aloha]

after I got together with dh, I read my dsd's early school books about her weekend, when my dh had her three weekends out of four. Her reports were full of puppet shows and visiting grandparents (on both sides) and parties and playdates, trips to the seaside and parks.
It was why I had kids with him, frankly.

[Tinkerbel5]

Aimsmum does he pay you maintenance, is that why he is like this with you, trying to make a point that cause he pays you some money that is his responsibility over and done with apart from when he has your daughter ? Some men would be grateful for a couple of hours visitation but are denied access and there is your ex who dont want to see his daughter more than his allocated time , your daughter will soon get fed up going to his house if he dont do anything with her as it wont be much fun, maybe in the future if he cant see her on his set days then he forgoes access until the next time rather than changing your days to suit him.

[cylon]

how did you end up having sex with him in the first place?
he sounds like a waste of air.

[ScummyMummy]

What a of monumenatlly proportions. Dd is so lucky that you are lovely and protect her from knowing about the full extent of his heinously disgusting and unfatherly attitude, aimsmum.

[Aimsmum]

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[Aimsmum]

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[NadineBaggott]

So sad for your dd ( and you!)

some good advice on here. Agree with www - rise above it but keep notes!

[Greensleeves]

Can you somehow get him to put it in writing - email, maybe, or text message? that he is refusing to pay for food/drinks/snacks for his daughter when she is with him, and that he is not planning to feed her or pay for any activities etc? Surely the court would be interested to hear this.

The OP made me so angry my throat felt constricted. Heartless weirdo.

[WideWebWitch]

And definitely keep a record of all of it. So just don't react and then calmly write it down. He's the loser if he doesn't spend time with her.

[WideWebWitch]

I think the most satisfying thing you could do here is be the better person by ignoring it as much as possible. So don't rise to it, don't give him any details, don't show you're upset by any of it, just calmly only deal with him as much as you have to and show absolutely no reaction to anything else. Make sure you don't let it get to you. Could you almost make a game of it with yourself, seeing how aloof you can be?

He sounds vile but let's hope the food etc is empty threats designed to rile.

[Aimsmum]

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[McEdam]

If he's a gambler I imagine the thing about the debt manager is a lie - he may well just be trying to trick you into revealing your bank a/c details.

I hope the stuff about not providing food and drink for his own daughter is just an empty threat. But I'd keep a record of it just in case.

[Aimsmum]

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[barnstaple]

What a w***! doesn't he realise that there are guys out there fighting to spend more time with their kids? He should feel privileged to see her at all.

[grouchyoscar]

Oh and didn;t he want to change his allocated day?

Don't be nice and let him do that again.

[grouchyoscar]

What a twunt of the highest order.

I agree with Aloha keep records of this type of behaviour.

Don't give your bank details

When DD goes out with him is possible to send her with emergency supplies. A box of juice or two and a museli/cereal bar for example. Then she has something to snack on and he doesn't get the opportunity to get one over on you IYKWIM

All thew best with it...bloody men

[Blandmum]

what a sack of shit this excuse for a 'man' is!

[Charlie999]

Well if he doesn't care for her properly, not a court in the land would grant him unsupervised access....so you can stop access and tell him to take you to court - so keep records and a diary of events.

Your poor DD