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cherryredcola · 19/08/2016 08:51

Morning all
Need advice!
Ex partner moved 275 miles away a year ago, has not seen DD since xmas and refuses to pay any maintenance for her.
Will not speak to me or answer any questions around when I will get some money, although has now said he will take me to court for access. There has been domestic violence and ex has mental health issues which have not been addressed ( sectioned previously) i have said he can come up and see Dd who is 6 but no unsupervised contact and she doesn't want to go without me down where he now lives.
How will it work given the distance that he moved away from her with court and arrangements - I can't afford to travel where he is and to be honest don't see why i should when hes done nothing for herall year xx

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Lelloteddy · 19/08/2016 21:57

Stop communicating with him verbally.
Apply to the CMS for maintenance.
Email him a proposal for regular contact visits.

When he refuses to agree or engage, keep a record of his communication/texts.

Wait for him to apply for a contact order.

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Missgraeme · 19/08/2016 14:42

As he chose to move away without sorting any contact first he would be expected to travel. Go for supervised as courts will advise that anyway -I bet he gives up before too long tho. He is just being arsey.

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SharonfromEON · 19/08/2016 14:32

I don't know the ins and outs... However I would put into the CMS and stop talking..

My Ex took me to court I spoke to CAFCASS ..I had written evidence of his diagnosis( MH) and written evidence of why he was a risk..CAFCASS agreed to no contact until he was assessed..

At 6 it won't be her choice.. I Initially offered my my Ex contact centre contact it was arranged through solicitor...

I didn't put in for CSA till he decided to take me to court.. I didn't want to open a can of worms over money. He dropped out of court case but still has to pay £5 a week ...

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