Hi, I could really use some advice. I need to register my child's birth next week, before the 6 week deadline. I split up with my baby's dad several months ago but we've still been in contact. He's been round to see her most nights and has helped me with a few things like shopping, somewhat reluctantly. My ex has a lot of issues and suffers depression and can be very aggressive. He hasn't hurt me physically but has punched holes in walls. He can also be very controlling and manipulative. I've tried to see if we can patch things up and done my very best, but we simply cannot get on. I would like to move away up north to be near my sister but he said if I do so, he will seek an injunction from the courts to stop me from moving. He also said he will go to court to get joint custody of our child.
I can't bear the thought of having to share custody of our child. He is very unstable and irresponsible. He has a drink problem and has driven drunk in the past. He thinks he's always right and won't listen to anyone else. He doesn't care about things like hygiene, about cooking food properly, he thinks its fine to fall asleep on the sofa with a baby etc. Please don't criticise me for having a child with this man in the first place, I know how foolish I've been but as incredible as it is, I once loved this man.
If I add his name to my child's birth certificate he will automatically have parental rights and that terrifies me. If I leave it off, he can go to court to request that he be added and a DNA test will prove he is the child's father. So do I add him or leave him off? I would be grateful for some advice.
Thank you
Sarah
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sarah00001 · 09/08/2015 20:13
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