You lost daddy

[Sasquatch75]

That's what my 2 year old said to me yesterday! I was shocked :( Poor little thing.

And then my 6 year old was busy drawing our family tree without daddy this morning, and then wrote 'dad and mum split up. Mummy is sad. You bad dad.' Blimey. I always try not to show them how sad I am and I certainly don't badmouth my ex in front of them - obviously my sadness comes out sometimes and that's probably healthy, but I'm mostly happy when I'm with them. Maybe I go a bit ott with the I love you's etc...

[GrinningImp]

You wonder, don't you? My 2-yo (just 2 on separation earlier this y) says he loves me but Daddy and his half-sisters don't. And that I'm sad.

But like you, am v matter of fact and ask him if i seem sad, tell him how much we all love him and that I am v happy.

Talking is a good habit to get in and I think we're lucky we can have these chats! Not all kids open up, so it's a healthy sign!

Thanks for talking about this!!
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[Sasquatch75]

Awww it's so sad isn't it. It's been 11 weeks for us now... Love my boys soooo much. Off to give them cuddles and kisses before I go to bed now (hopefully it'll be a part of their dreams :) )

[starlight1234]

My son is also 6....One thing I have learnt was every time he said anything about Daddy I went out of my way to reassure DS, and analysed everything he said...

He hasn't seen his Dad for 4 year January...He will talk about not having a Dad very matter of fact..I tell him he does have a Daddy just doesn't see him as matter as fact back...

kids are very resilient ..I also agree...I still tell my DS I love him all the time..Kiss him while he still lets me..These things are really good for them IMO

[MotherofBear]

You can never go ott with I love you's etc!!

Children are a lot more perceptive than we give them credit for. But they also get things wrong a lot of the time (e.g. 'You lost daddy'!). They will have picked up on your sadness but as you say, it's healthy - they know some things make you sad and other things make you happy.

Just keep doing what you're doing